Few months back, when I was on my vacation, I got a call from my friend. Although it was a kind of offer for me, it was more of an idea. Story goes like this:
In May 2010, an eMagazine, issued by a Gujarati Orkut community, published an article written by my close friend Bhumika. And this beautiful article ignited a spark in Vishal’s mind. As a result, we all “conceived” this beautiful idea of an e-magazine. It would be a magazine where a person could freely express his/her idea on a subject of their choosing. Language no bar.
But a child does not enter this world without mother going through labour pains. Similarly there were lots of problems attached with birth of this magazine. To start with, first we couldn’t think about how to “motivate” the whole Writer Brigade, when we gathered people to write, we couldn’t decide the name of the magazine, date of publishing first issue, etc. Finally, when everything was decided, it was the time for us “pioneers” to face our bunch of problems in our personal life. Due to various reasons, this idea was as good as dead.
At end of 6 months of labour pain, we are finally here, ready to welcome fruit of our labours to this world, after all these hustle bustle n hullabaloo.
So, our most beloved baby, COLLAGE is coming to this world, with its first issue. And I’m feeling extremely happy for this…..
And for you all, please check http://collage19.wordpress.com. This blog will be home for Collage for some time to come.
P.S.: I know, you all might feel that how can one post such *bullshit* on their blog, but these are my feelings and I am trying to give words to them
Monday, November 29, 2010
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Life partner v/s Spouse
Last night I was chatting with a friend of mine thru texts and the track turned on this topic. So the question was what kind of girl guys prefer as their life partner? Someone who’s a “brain girl” or someone who’s a “doll girl”.
Same question I asked to my other male friends… All of them replied different attributes for their life partner. Some said, she should be beautiful with good nature, some said someone who can understand individuality. Some wanted emotionally intelligent partner, some were ready to negotiate for beauty or brain, if the girl has good amount of either.
But then my mind got one more question. That was, do people always get what they want? As in, is the person you are married to; has the same quality as you’d dreamt about?
Looking at the lives of some of my married friends, I would say it is not so all the time. Some of my friends have really got what they’d dreamt about, but few said that for them, life partner and spouse have been two different things. If given a choice they’d prefer to go with their “life partners” rather than their “spouse”
But isn’t it like we have to accept whoever is “written” in our destiny (I don’t know what kinda invisible ink they use, coz I need that ink for my exams :P )?
I can’t understand, why people get all ready to leave what they want to or what they’ve always dreamt about just for the sake of a “sanskriti”, which doesn’t allow you to go for your “life-partner”?
I don’t know what’s going on in my mind right now… but one thing is for sure, we all are a big bunch of “hypocrites”
(P.S. : guys… ‘m shocked, none of you said that she should be SEXY)
Same question I asked to my other male friends… All of them replied different attributes for their life partner. Some said, she should be beautiful with good nature, some said someone who can understand individuality. Some wanted emotionally intelligent partner, some were ready to negotiate for beauty or brain, if the girl has good amount of either.
But then my mind got one more question. That was, do people always get what they want? As in, is the person you are married to; has the same quality as you’d dreamt about?
Looking at the lives of some of my married friends, I would say it is not so all the time. Some of my friends have really got what they’d dreamt about, but few said that for them, life partner and spouse have been two different things. If given a choice they’d prefer to go with their “life partners” rather than their “spouse”
But isn’t it like we have to accept whoever is “written” in our destiny (I don’t know what kinda invisible ink they use, coz I need that ink for my exams :P )?
I can’t understand, why people get all ready to leave what they want to or what they’ve always dreamt about just for the sake of a “sanskriti”, which doesn’t allow you to go for your “life-partner”?
I don’t know what’s going on in my mind right now… but one thing is for sure, we all are a big bunch of “hypocrites”
(P.S. : guys… ‘m shocked, none of you said that she should be SEXY)
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Marriages and Indian Mindset
હમણાં જ એક અઠવાડિયાથી પણ ઓછા સમયગાળામાં મેં બે ડાયલોગ્સ સાંભળ્યા:
Dialog 1:
“ના બાપા!!!! તમે લોકો તો તમારા ફિલ્ડના જ પાર્ટનર્સ શોધજો, પછી અમારી પસંદ જોડે એડજસ્ટમેન્ટ ના થાય તો અમારે પાછલી ઉમરે ખોટું સાંભળવું નથી”
“એ વાત તો બરાબર પણ યાર મમ્મા, મને અત્યારે ત્રણ-ચાર છોકરાઓ ગમે છે, એમાંથી ફાઈનલ કરવામાં તો મદદ કરજે, પ્લીઝ”
“ઓકે, એ વખતની વાત એ વખતે, પણ હા, અમે તારા માટે છોકરો નથી શોધવાના એ વાત નક્કી જ છે”
Dialog 2:
“મમ્મી, મને XYZ ગમે છે, તો હું કોઈ બીજી છોકરી જોડે શું કરવા લગ્ન કરું?”
“એટલા માટે કે એ છોકરી આપણી નાતની નથી, બીજી નાતની- બીજા કલ્ચરની છે”
“પણ એનાથી શું ફરક પડે છે??? અને આવી રીતે જોર-જબરદસ્તીથી કોઈપણ અજાણી છોકરી જોડે હું કઈ રીતે marriage કરું?? અમે બે આજ પહેલા મળ્યા પણ નથી, અને આવી રીતે અડધા-પોણા કલાકમાં કોઈ ને મળીને હું કઈ રીતે નક્કી કરી શકું?”
“કેમ એમાં શું છે? મેં અને તારા પપ્પા એ પણ એ જ રીતે લગ્ન કરેલા છે, તો તને શું વાંધો છે?”
“.....”
“...”
& it goes on and on and on... જ્યાં સુધી “બકરો” શહીદ ના થઇ જાય....
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આખી દુનિયામાં ભારત જ એક એવો દેશ છે જેમાં લોકો પોતાની લાઈફ અને વાઈફ (or હસબન્ડ) માટે પોતાના માતા-પિતાને આશરે રહે છે અને એવું પણ નથી કે એ લોકો પ્રેમમાં કે લવ-મેરેજમાં વિશ્વાસ નથી કરતા, કેમકે આજે જ્યાં ટીનએજની શરૂઆત થતા પહેલા પ્યુબર્ટી આવી જતી હોય ત્યાં ઓપોઝીટ સેક્સ તરફ એટ્રેક્શન/લવ ના થાય એ શક્ય નથી.
આ દેશમાં લોકોનું દિલ બદલાવ ઈચ્છે છે, પણ મગજ કહે છે કે આપણે જે રીતે વર્ષોથી જીવ્યા છે એમાં કંઈ ખાસ ફેરફાર ના થવો જોઈએ અને એટલે જ આજે આપણે ટેકનીકલી આગળ વધ્યા તો છીએ પણ એક રીતે જોઈએ તો હજી પણ બારમી સદીમાં જ છીએ.
આજનો યુવક બધું જ ફાસ્ટ ઈચ્છે છે, પોતાની ઈચ્છા પ્રમાણે જીવવા ઈચ્છે છે. અને એને કોઈ બાંધે એ એને પસંદ નથી પડતું, પછી એ એની કરીઅર હોય કે લાઈફ.
હવે અહિયાં સૌથી મોટો પ્રોબ્લેમ ત્યારે થાય છે જયારે લાઈફ પાર્ટનર નો સવાલ આવે છે. છોકરા/છોકરી ને પોતાની પસંદ જોડે પરણવું હોય છે અને મા-બાપ ને એ લોકોની પસંદ જોડે પરણાવવા હોય છે. આમાં થી ઊભો થાય સંઘર્ષ અને એનું અંતિમ રીઝલ્ટ ક્યાં તો પેરેન્ટ્સનો કાયમી ગુસ્સો આવે ક્યાં તો લાઈફ ( અને વાઈફ પણ) જોડે કરવામાં આવતી એક પ્રકારની સમજુતી, જે થોડા સમય પછી પાર્ટનર જોડે ના ઝગડામાં પરિણમે.
એનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ મેરેજમાં ઝગડા ના થાય, પણ એટલીસ્ટ એક વાતની શ્યોરિટી લવ-મેરેજમાં રહે કે, તમે ગમે તેટલું ઝગડો અંતે તો તમે ફરીને એ જ વ્યક્તિને પામવા ઈચ્છો, કારણકે એ તમારી પોતાની પસંદ છે અને તમે કોઈને જો ખરેખર ચાહતા હોવ તો ગમે તેટલા રુસણા પછી મનામણાં આપમેળે થઇ જતા હોય છે.
લોકો માને છે કે લવ-મેરેજનું અંતિમ પરિણામ છૂટાછેડા જ આવે છે, પણ હું એવા કપલ્સને પણ ઓળખું છું જેમણે સમાજ(મતલબ કે ઘરવાળા)ની વિરૂદ્ધમાં જઈને લગ્ન કર્યા હોય (ઓફકોર્સ લવ મેરેજ) અને ચાર-ચાર દાયકા સુધી સાથે રહ્યા હોય.
આમ જુઓ તો મેરેજ એક ઉત્સવ છે, It’s celebration of Love. દુનિયામાં કશે પણ-ભારતને છોડીને- આમ અરેન્જ મેરેજ અને લવ મેરેજ એમ ભાગ નથી પાડવામાં આવતા. ખાલી ભારતમાં જ આ મહાન ઉત્સવમાં જે લોકોને પરણવાનું હોય છે એ લોકોની મરજી નથી જોવામાં આવતી.
આ આખી ચર્ચાનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ-મેરેજ એક સ્વપ્ન સમાન બાબત છે. હવે આજના પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ બદલાઈ રહ્યા છે, પહેલી ઘટનામાં જોયા એવા પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ છે, પરંતુ બહુ જ ઓછી સંખ્યામાં. મેજોરિટી સમાજ બીજી ઘટનાના પેરેન્ટ જેવો છે. સંતાનના સુખ ખાતર કંઈપણ કરવા તૈયાર મા-બાપ એ લગ્નની બાબતમાં પણ એ લોકોનું સુખ જોવાની જરૂર છે, નહિ તો “બકરા” શહીદ થયા કરશે..
Dialog 1:
“ના બાપા!!!! તમે લોકો તો તમારા ફિલ્ડના જ પાર્ટનર્સ શોધજો, પછી અમારી પસંદ જોડે એડજસ્ટમેન્ટ ના થાય તો અમારે પાછલી ઉમરે ખોટું સાંભળવું નથી”
“એ વાત તો બરાબર પણ યાર મમ્મા, મને અત્યારે ત્રણ-ચાર છોકરાઓ ગમે છે, એમાંથી ફાઈનલ કરવામાં તો મદદ કરજે, પ્લીઝ”
“ઓકે, એ વખતની વાત એ વખતે, પણ હા, અમે તારા માટે છોકરો નથી શોધવાના એ વાત નક્કી જ છે”
Dialog 2:
“મમ્મી, મને XYZ ગમે છે, તો હું કોઈ બીજી છોકરી જોડે શું કરવા લગ્ન કરું?”
“એટલા માટે કે એ છોકરી આપણી નાતની નથી, બીજી નાતની- બીજા કલ્ચરની છે”
“પણ એનાથી શું ફરક પડે છે??? અને આવી રીતે જોર-જબરદસ્તીથી કોઈપણ અજાણી છોકરી જોડે હું કઈ રીતે marriage કરું?? અમે બે આજ પહેલા મળ્યા પણ નથી, અને આવી રીતે અડધા-પોણા કલાકમાં કોઈ ને મળીને હું કઈ રીતે નક્કી કરી શકું?”
“કેમ એમાં શું છે? મેં અને તારા પપ્પા એ પણ એ જ રીતે લગ્ન કરેલા છે, તો તને શું વાંધો છે?”
“.....”
“...”
& it goes on and on and on... જ્યાં સુધી “બકરો” શહીદ ના થઇ જાય....
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આખી દુનિયામાં ભારત જ એક એવો દેશ છે જેમાં લોકો પોતાની લાઈફ અને વાઈફ (or હસબન્ડ) માટે પોતાના માતા-પિતાને આશરે રહે છે અને એવું પણ નથી કે એ લોકો પ્રેમમાં કે લવ-મેરેજમાં વિશ્વાસ નથી કરતા, કેમકે આજે જ્યાં ટીનએજની શરૂઆત થતા પહેલા પ્યુબર્ટી આવી જતી હોય ત્યાં ઓપોઝીટ સેક્સ તરફ એટ્રેક્શન/લવ ના થાય એ શક્ય નથી.
આ દેશમાં લોકોનું દિલ બદલાવ ઈચ્છે છે, પણ મગજ કહે છે કે આપણે જે રીતે વર્ષોથી જીવ્યા છે એમાં કંઈ ખાસ ફેરફાર ના થવો જોઈએ અને એટલે જ આજે આપણે ટેકનીકલી આગળ વધ્યા તો છીએ પણ એક રીતે જોઈએ તો હજી પણ બારમી સદીમાં જ છીએ.
આજનો યુવક બધું જ ફાસ્ટ ઈચ્છે છે, પોતાની ઈચ્છા પ્રમાણે જીવવા ઈચ્છે છે. અને એને કોઈ બાંધે એ એને પસંદ નથી પડતું, પછી એ એની કરીઅર હોય કે લાઈફ.
હવે અહિયાં સૌથી મોટો પ્રોબ્લેમ ત્યારે થાય છે જયારે લાઈફ પાર્ટનર નો સવાલ આવે છે. છોકરા/છોકરી ને પોતાની પસંદ જોડે પરણવું હોય છે અને મા-બાપ ને એ લોકોની પસંદ જોડે પરણાવવા હોય છે. આમાં થી ઊભો થાય સંઘર્ષ અને એનું અંતિમ રીઝલ્ટ ક્યાં તો પેરેન્ટ્સનો કાયમી ગુસ્સો આવે ક્યાં તો લાઈફ ( અને વાઈફ પણ) જોડે કરવામાં આવતી એક પ્રકારની સમજુતી, જે થોડા સમય પછી પાર્ટનર જોડે ના ઝગડામાં પરિણમે.
એનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ મેરેજમાં ઝગડા ના થાય, પણ એટલીસ્ટ એક વાતની શ્યોરિટી લવ-મેરેજમાં રહે કે, તમે ગમે તેટલું ઝગડો અંતે તો તમે ફરીને એ જ વ્યક્તિને પામવા ઈચ્છો, કારણકે એ તમારી પોતાની પસંદ છે અને તમે કોઈને જો ખરેખર ચાહતા હોવ તો ગમે તેટલા રુસણા પછી મનામણાં આપમેળે થઇ જતા હોય છે.
લોકો માને છે કે લવ-મેરેજનું અંતિમ પરિણામ છૂટાછેડા જ આવે છે, પણ હું એવા કપલ્સને પણ ઓળખું છું જેમણે સમાજ(મતલબ કે ઘરવાળા)ની વિરૂદ્ધમાં જઈને લગ્ન કર્યા હોય (ઓફકોર્સ લવ મેરેજ) અને ચાર-ચાર દાયકા સુધી સાથે રહ્યા હોય.
આમ જુઓ તો મેરેજ એક ઉત્સવ છે, It’s celebration of Love. દુનિયામાં કશે પણ-ભારતને છોડીને- આમ અરેન્જ મેરેજ અને લવ મેરેજ એમ ભાગ નથી પાડવામાં આવતા. ખાલી ભારતમાં જ આ મહાન ઉત્સવમાં જે લોકોને પરણવાનું હોય છે એ લોકોની મરજી નથી જોવામાં આવતી.
આ આખી ચર્ચાનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ-મેરેજ એક સ્વપ્ન સમાન બાબત છે. હવે આજના પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ બદલાઈ રહ્યા છે, પહેલી ઘટનામાં જોયા એવા પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ છે, પરંતુ બહુ જ ઓછી સંખ્યામાં. મેજોરિટી સમાજ બીજી ઘટનાના પેરેન્ટ જેવો છે. સંતાનના સુખ ખાતર કંઈપણ કરવા તૈયાર મા-બાપ એ લગ્નની બાબતમાં પણ એ લોકોનું સુખ જોવાની જરૂર છે, નહિ તો “બકરા” શહીદ થયા કરશે..
Thursday, August 19, 2010
THIS HAPPENED TO ME
This incident happened to me today as well as yesterday (today I had FUN though)....
It happened like this...
While having lunch, my landline phone rang up, and I picked up...
"Hello.."
"Hello mam, Can I speak to Mr. Siddhartha Desai?"
"May I know who's speaking? (Does this stupid not even know that grandpa is passed away 2 years back?)"
"Mam, this is XYZ(I've forgot his name) from State Bank of India"
"Sure, Can u please tell me in what matter you want to speak to him? (This is gonna be fun now..hahaha...)"
"Mam, It is a confidential matter"
"Yes, I am sure it is, but since I am his financial advisor, he anyway going to tell me this (Ghanta... FINACIAL ADVISOR)"
"No mam, we have to speak to him"
"OK, can you please tell him what data do you have about him?"
"SORRY?!?"
"You have called up to talk to a person, then you must be having data regarding him na? Can you please tell me what data you have, so I can give you some additional info?"
"What info mam?"
"That... he passed away 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
(Must have not heard properly) "HE PASSED AWAY 2 YEARS BACK"
"Didn't get you mam"
"(you idiot..... grrr....) He expired 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
"(Ahaa... this is fun...) He's shifted to somewhere else.."
"Oh..OK... mam, Can you give me his contact number?"
"I afraid I can't, that place has no telecom service yet, but I can give you his postal address"
"Oh sure mam, please give me his postal address"
"write down please, it is, 206, Heaven Apartment.."
"Yes mam.."
"Next to Hell Colony..."
"OK..."
"Cloud's way.."
"hmm..."
"GOD's country...(God help me...)"
"umm.. can u hold on for a moment??"
"Sure..."
"Mam... who's handling his business now?"
"(Who idiot now told him that grandpa had a business) What business?!?"
"His business mam... He must be having some business na?!?"
"Who told you that???? He never had any business..."
"Oh sorry mam... I am really sorry"
...and cut down the Phone
(P.S.: The aim to write down all these is to give you all a li'l laughter (probably) and to aware that SBI has started 'SPAMMING' on phone now... just like Club Mahindra used to do few years back... like... 'u've won free trip' etc.
It happened like this...
While having lunch, my landline phone rang up, and I picked up...
"Hello.."
"Hello mam, Can I speak to Mr. Siddhartha Desai?"
"May I know who's speaking? (Does this stupid not even know that grandpa is passed away 2 years back?)"
"Mam, this is XYZ(I've forgot his name) from State Bank of India"
"Sure, Can u please tell me in what matter you want to speak to him? (This is gonna be fun now..hahaha...)"
"Mam, It is a confidential matter"
"Yes, I am sure it is, but since I am his financial advisor, he anyway going to tell me this (Ghanta... FINACIAL ADVISOR)"
"No mam, we have to speak to him"
"OK, can you please tell him what data do you have about him?"
"SORRY?!?"
"You have called up to talk to a person, then you must be having data regarding him na? Can you please tell me what data you have, so I can give you some additional info?"
"What info mam?"
"That... he passed away 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
(Must have not heard properly) "HE PASSED AWAY 2 YEARS BACK"
"Didn't get you mam"
"(you idiot..... grrr....) He expired 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
"(Ahaa... this is fun...) He's shifted to somewhere else.."
"Oh..OK... mam, Can you give me his contact number?"
"I afraid I can't, that place has no telecom service yet, but I can give you his postal address"
"Oh sure mam, please give me his postal address"
"write down please, it is, 206, Heaven Apartment.."
"Yes mam.."
"Next to Hell Colony..."
"OK..."
"Cloud's way.."
"hmm..."
"GOD's country...(God help me...)"
"umm.. can u hold on for a moment??"
"Sure..."
"Mam... who's handling his business now?"
"(Who idiot now told him that grandpa had a business) What business?!?"
"His business mam... He must be having some business na?!?"
"Who told you that???? He never had any business..."
"Oh sorry mam... I am really sorry"
...and cut down the Phone
(P.S.: The aim to write down all these is to give you all a li'l laughter (probably) and to aware that SBI has started 'SPAMMING' on phone now... just like Club Mahindra used to do few years back... like... 'u've won free trip' etc.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
Friendship means...
Hmmm... 1st Sunday of August... Entire world celebrates FRIENDSHIP'S DAY... A day specially dedicated to friends... N just because of that people start singing songs of friendship n write long n long articles/blogposts on friends n friendship... But none of them describes what friendhip is to me... n how can they do so?? It's my feeling... So lemme tell you what friendship means to me...
For me, Friendship has many meanings. Some of them are common, some uncommon... But one thing is for sure... My meaning of friendship changes from person to person....
My friends are my life and all of you are close to my heart... but stilll I have different meaning of friendship with all of you n also for all of you, my importance is different...
I have a Jay-Veeru kind of friendship too and also Veeru-Basanti kind of friendship (not exact that kinda friendship, but since 'm a gal I'm calling myself Basanti)
Friendship to me is helping out that closest person from the toughest problem, like marking proxy in attendence... Friendship also means asking to mark MY attendence to that closest friend
Friendship means... when you are having Maparesir's class test n telling the person next to you.. "yaar konsi manhus ghadi me .net liya tha" and then writing the answers with that person... li'l from ur knowledge n li'l from his/her knowledge n passing out internals of .net with average marks (Maparesir hai yaar... aur kitne aayenge... :P )
Friendship means... bunking Revdiwala's lecture n being the only person in Parikhsir's lec, by sending the rest of class to cantten (n then joining them, exactly after 3 mins ;) )
Friendship means... Exchaning readings in Physics n Chemistry practicals...
Friendship means... Having Dabba Ujani when someone from "Devils' Zone" forgets the lunch box
Friendship means... "Can I have a sip of water from your water bottle?"
Friendship means... "Night outs at Aneri's place and never-ending gossips from school time till today"
Friendship means... "Joining guitar class because you think your friend will attend it regularly because of you, n then both of u bunking the class"
Friendship mean... "Marrying your best friend on Facebook... Even though you r straight n that fake mariage makes you gay"
Friendship means... "Being a shoulder for that person when someone real close to your friend is not well"
Friendship means... "Seeking help from someone-who's not your parents, when you are at a confusing point in your relationship"
Friendship means... "Giving a tightttttt hug (on phone) at midnight, when someone close has had a break up"
Friendship means... "1st Sunday of August.. 4 close friends... having coffee+snacks at CCD... n at the end fighting for paying bill"
Friendship means... "saying 'YES' to be a back-up spouse to ur closest pal"
Friendship means... "Letting go your crush for someone you care more about"
Friendship means... "Having a chicken sub n not being caught by Superitendent of Hostel"
Friendship means... all of these n much more...
Thanx people... for coming in my life n touching my heart... Muah
For me, Friendship has many meanings. Some of them are common, some uncommon... But one thing is for sure... My meaning of friendship changes from person to person....
My friends are my life and all of you are close to my heart... but stilll I have different meaning of friendship with all of you n also for all of you, my importance is different...
I have a Jay-Veeru kind of friendship too and also Veeru-Basanti kind of friendship (not exact that kinda friendship, but since 'm a gal I'm calling myself Basanti)
Friendship to me is helping out that closest person from the toughest problem, like marking proxy in attendence... Friendship also means asking to mark MY attendence to that closest friend
Friendship means... when you are having Maparesir's class test n telling the person next to you.. "yaar konsi manhus ghadi me .net liya tha" and then writing the answers with that person... li'l from ur knowledge n li'l from his/her knowledge n passing out internals of .net with average marks (Maparesir hai yaar... aur kitne aayenge... :P )
Friendship means... bunking Revdiwala's lecture n being the only person in Parikhsir's lec, by sending the rest of class to cantten (n then joining them, exactly after 3 mins ;) )
Friendship means... Exchaning readings in Physics n Chemistry practicals...
Friendship means... Having Dabba Ujani when someone from "Devils' Zone" forgets the lunch box
Friendship means... "Can I have a sip of water from your water bottle?"
Friendship means... "Night outs at Aneri's place and never-ending gossips from school time till today"
Friendship means... "Joining guitar class because you think your friend will attend it regularly because of you, n then both of u bunking the class"
Friendship mean... "Marrying your best friend on Facebook... Even though you r straight n that fake mariage makes you gay"
Friendship means... "Being a shoulder for that person when someone real close to your friend is not well"
Friendship means... "Seeking help from someone-who's not your parents, when you are at a confusing point in your relationship"
Friendship means... "Giving a tightttttt hug (on phone) at midnight, when someone close has had a break up"
Friendship means... "1st Sunday of August.. 4 close friends... having coffee+snacks at CCD... n at the end fighting for paying bill"
Friendship means... "saying 'YES' to be a back-up spouse to ur closest pal"
Friendship means... "Letting go your crush for someone you care more about"
Friendship means... "Having a chicken sub n not being caught by Superitendent of Hostel"
Friendship means... all of these n much more...
Thanx people... for coming in my life n touching my heart... Muah
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Just for a change...
Last night, me and my best friend from school were chatting on phone... and we "discussed" an amazing topic. Though it was less of discussion and more of a real sarcasm.
I am gonna share that "scene" with u guys.... just to give u a good laugh, for a change ;)
[we are in middle of our usual weekly "gossip" on which school friend is doing what nowadays and who got laid etc and all of a sudden my friend (for u we'll call her AD) started this....]
AD: hey babes... u know... x's GF took admission in IGNOU for MBA
me: who? y? but why would she do so?? I mean x is cool with all those career oriented thing na? what's wrong then?
AD: c'mon girl... he's "cool"... when it comes about "ghar ki laxmi" they all are same.
me: seriously girl... I guess for GF they want a career oriented girl, but not for wife yaar... why why why????
AD: f**k off that thing yaar... you know they take entrance test for IGNOU.
me: (in serious tone)really???
AD: yeah... they ask u... the nailpolish u've applied is of what company?? and then they give you four options
me: and what about specialization????
AD: that would be like culinary skills, household skills, Operation Management and Disaster Management.
me: oh yea that's awesome...
[...and we both burst into a really laughter shower ]
[after a while]
AD: u know what kind of logical reasoning do they ask?
me: k what would you do if ur husband's income is 5k n your monthly expense is 6k? How would you save money?
AD: nice one babes... you r learning...
me: (while laughing) thanx babes...
[after our "all 3 floors get disturbed" laughter... I asked]
me: do u know why people go for girl like her, and not like us?
AD: why?
me: because.... they know that... girls like us would reply that expense question like... Don't worry about that 1k dude.. I'll start working and by that we can save 4k each month.
AD: hahaha... true babes... n that would hurt their "male ego". n anyways with your degree from Symbiosis, you would definitely kick his ass
me: yeah... n then comes the future scene...
AD: what future scene?
me: see... after a few years I would start earning more money... So I would then tell him to leave his job... and he would start doing all household thingie.. n since his current earning is just 5k, he would not have that much education qualification, so being a home manager would be better for him...
AD: then u'll start ordering him.. like A.. make coffee for me, why dinner is not ready yet.. etc etc
me: on dinner thing, he'd say, sorry darling, but I was busy with this xyz serial, they'd a special episode today.
AD: yeah.... n then u'd say, ohhh... u and ur serials...
me: LOL... still biggie... what if he'd miss an episode, n of course, he'd blame me for that, k since u wanted me to make dinner ready by this time, I missed today's episode. Now I have to watch it at night...
AD: babes... that'd affect your life only...
[giggle.. giggle...]
me: this way... there'd come a time, when people know him as AK's husband...
AD: yeah babes... n may be he'd take ur surname as his...
me: but still... why x would go for a girl like y and not a girl like us..
AD: c'mon babes... his love is arranged...
me: WTH!!!!!!!!
AD: yea... I just come to know... It's all for his business and all...
me: cool... but still... question remains the same... why an IGNOU MBA??? If he wants an MBA, he could have gone for some girl from a normal college, even H.L. MBA is good yaar.
AD: may be, his mom wanna say in front of her "kitty party" group, that she got an MBA bahu..
me: whatever yaar... this sucks...
[...and I changed the topic... but still I can't understand this "double standards"]
[P.S.:
1) being a home maker is a good thing, I know, but being JUST a home maker not gonna work yaar... I mean, it doesn't make any kind of sense in today's world.
2) this one is just for a little fun at our side, and thought I should share it. No intension to make fun of anyone out there
]
Monday, June 28, 2010
Relationship that has no name
There are some relations which are damn difficult to understand. You sometimes don’t know what name you are supposed to give to that relationship… Is it just friendship??? Or is it Love??? You’d say that such relations are called best-friends… but there is a relationship, which is beyond the category of ‘best-friends’ and does not fall under the category of “love”.
There is no such name for this feeling… You’d feel that person so close to your heart and life that you’d just can’t live without that person. And this thing becomes complicated when one of you is married. Because you know that your spouse not going to understand this relationship and you also know that the other person is really important to you and it becomes worse when your spouse start thinking that the other person is creating problems in your marriage life.
And this thing is difficult for that other person too. S/he just wants to be that friend who never breach trust of his/her “best friend”, but sometimes that friend begins to think that s/he is a disturbance in his/her life. It’s just not the way s/he wants to treat his/her single friend, but it’s something natural to happen.
I don’t know much about this relationship world but I too have such relationships… Both with some of my female friends as well as my male friends. A relationship which doesn’t have any name for the people out there, but we know that we r sharing this “something special” relationship. May be our “friendship” is not acceptable for society, especially Indian society. Some think that I am gay, because I am just too close to that girl, n I love her like my kid sis (though people won’t notice that). Same way with my male friends. Okey, I am too friendly, but not like him in that sense that I would come between his serious commitments and family relationship.
I sometimes really don’t understand whom to blame for this. Can a girl-who probably would take active participation in some “Purush samovadi andolan”- be so narrow-minded that she’d just simply start building up a negative impression for that girl because of whom her husband is emotionally alive???? I seriously don’t know what to do with this type of relationship, which is a damn normal thing in today’s “cyber” world and with our Gen-X…
Anyways… My part of “Monsoon” has begun already… So ‘m enjoying “rimzim bearish”… All the best people… For both monsoon and this out-of-way kinda relationship ;)
There is no such name for this feeling… You’d feel that person so close to your heart and life that you’d just can’t live without that person. And this thing becomes complicated when one of you is married. Because you know that your spouse not going to understand this relationship and you also know that the other person is really important to you and it becomes worse when your spouse start thinking that the other person is creating problems in your marriage life.
And this thing is difficult for that other person too. S/he just wants to be that friend who never breach trust of his/her “best friend”, but sometimes that friend begins to think that s/he is a disturbance in his/her life. It’s just not the way s/he wants to treat his/her single friend, but it’s something natural to happen.
I don’t know much about this relationship world but I too have such relationships… Both with some of my female friends as well as my male friends. A relationship which doesn’t have any name for the people out there, but we know that we r sharing this “something special” relationship. May be our “friendship” is not acceptable for society, especially Indian society. Some think that I am gay, because I am just too close to that girl, n I love her like my kid sis (though people won’t notice that). Same way with my male friends. Okey, I am too friendly, but not like him in that sense that I would come between his serious commitments and family relationship.
I sometimes really don’t understand whom to blame for this. Can a girl-who probably would take active participation in some “Purush samovadi andolan”- be so narrow-minded that she’d just simply start building up a negative impression for that girl because of whom her husband is emotionally alive???? I seriously don’t know what to do with this type of relationship, which is a damn normal thing in today’s “cyber” world and with our Gen-X…
Anyways… My part of “Monsoon” has begun already… So ‘m enjoying “rimzim bearish”… All the best people… For both monsoon and this out-of-way kinda relationship ;)
Monday, June 14, 2010
First Rain of the Season
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Monsoon has begun in India and so are the various songs on rains, ranging from classic oldie bollywood songs to regional songs. And with this rainy season, stories and feelings of first rain start too.
Well…. First Rain… According to some Indian writers, First Rain is the rain where you get chances to get “wet” (pun is included, intended) with your special someone … But there is no mention of what to do when one does not have someone that much special, so I thought I’ll celebrate the first rain of this season with my friends. College friends were not in Pune, so celebrated it with my office friend.
As per my amdavadi rituals for “Pehlo Varsad”(First Rain), I have to welcome the rain Gods with garma garam daalwada (will give you recipe if u guys want)- ofcourse from Gujarat Dalwada Centre, but, Pune has different ritual, it’s to have Vada-pav, but was not in mood of that… So I started the celebration with a cutting. My next ritual is to have a good rain-bath but unfortunately, the time we left office the rain was almost gone. Now you will think that then what I did do to celebrate the first rain…
Okk, so now I’ll tell you what we did today…. When we left office, the water clogging in our gully was at its peak as you can see in the photograph attached, so after having a cutting, we walked till the main road, water was there too, but we somehow managed to start our journey to my way back home. The atmosphere was chilling cold but that was not enuf to shake our mood of masti, hence we decided to go for a li’l drive in nearby area.
That drive gave real pleasant moments for eyes… all scenery was totally green n really awesome. And as if rain Gods were listening to our prayers, it started drizzling. In short, it was most awesome day today. Though I had some typical girlie fearsome moments, regarding a mouse n of course, a snake (how can I forget that!!!).
But in all these I missed my cell phone a lott, if that unavoidable incident had not happened 20 days back, then I must have clicked some really awesome pics of the nature, but abhi ke liye, enjoy with my these clicks….
Happy Monsoon people!!!!!
Monday, May 17, 2010
F.R.I.E.N.D.S
6 young people, sharing their life and experience with each other for 10 long years, in the city of New York. Yeah, that’s the basic plot of my most favorite TV Show- F.R.I.E.N.D.S …..
I sometimes feel that I too want friends like Ross, Chandler, Joey, Phoebe… & sometimes I unconsciously compare my friends with the characters of the series. I love the way they share their life, happiness and sadness of each-other, with each-other. Actually that’s what friends-best friends- are for.
Right now my life is at such junction, where I don’t know what’s going to be in near future, where I’ll be land up after 2 months, who will be there with me- from my current friend circle. 2 yrs back when I’d joined SICSR, I might be the most nervous student from my batch. I was afraid if I could make any lifelong friends over here as I did in my last college. Will there be someone to whom I could turn for solace on every sad moment?
And today after 2 years, I am thinking, will I be able to meet them again and again, as I used to in these 2 years?? Some of them are already out of contact, due to this Industrial Training, yet in touch with many of them. I don’t know what I am feeling… I’m happy that I’ll be free from all these “tiffin ka khana” and all, but at the same time I’m sad coz I’ll miss coffee-stop and all those thelas out there.
Thanx a lott people… To allow me to be a part of your life… will miss u all a lotttt…..
And this is not like I’ll just miss my college friends. At this point I’m also thinking about my roomies… Had 7 room-mates in the duration of 2 years… They all are special to me- in one way or the other…
And that’s not all… I don’t know if my life gonna be the same in the near future… I made so many virtual friends in this duration of 2 years. I love them all… they all are a major part of my life and thanx to social networking sites, they r almost like my family member. I think I have a li’l family over there, I’ve a kid sis, an elder sis, a big brother, a mausi (sorry prits) and so many friends who are permanent part of my heart. I Love u all people….
Just stay in touch ( I promise I will)….
Love yaa all…
(P.S.: dedicated to whole Uniqs, Devi, Kalyani, Shikha, Sarita and also to VK, Baby, Bhums, Pri, Doc, Kush, Nimz, Dev, Dharu, KP, Bhushanbhai, HP n all of u)
I sometimes feel that I too want friends like Ross, Chandler, Joey, Phoebe… & sometimes I unconsciously compare my friends with the characters of the series. I love the way they share their life, happiness and sadness of each-other, with each-other. Actually that’s what friends-best friends- are for.
Right now my life is at such junction, where I don’t know what’s going to be in near future, where I’ll be land up after 2 months, who will be there with me- from my current friend circle. 2 yrs back when I’d joined SICSR, I might be the most nervous student from my batch. I was afraid if I could make any lifelong friends over here as I did in my last college. Will there be someone to whom I could turn for solace on every sad moment?
And today after 2 years, I am thinking, will I be able to meet them again and again, as I used to in these 2 years?? Some of them are already out of contact, due to this Industrial Training, yet in touch with many of them. I don’t know what I am feeling… I’m happy that I’ll be free from all these “tiffin ka khana” and all, but at the same time I’m sad coz I’ll miss coffee-stop and all those thelas out there.
Thanx a lott people… To allow me to be a part of your life… will miss u all a lotttt…..
And this is not like I’ll just miss my college friends. At this point I’m also thinking about my roomies… Had 7 room-mates in the duration of 2 years… They all are special to me- in one way or the other…
And that’s not all… I don’t know if my life gonna be the same in the near future… I made so many virtual friends in this duration of 2 years. I love them all… they all are a major part of my life and thanx to social networking sites, they r almost like my family member. I think I have a li’l family over there, I’ve a kid sis, an elder sis, a big brother, a mausi (sorry prits) and so many friends who are permanent part of my heart. I Love u all people….
Just stay in touch ( I promise I will)….
Love yaa all…
(P.S.: dedicated to whole Uniqs, Devi, Kalyani, Shikha, Sarita and also to VK, Baby, Bhums, Pri, Doc, Kush, Nimz, Dev, Dharu, KP, Bhushanbhai, HP n all of u)
Monday, May 3, 2010
Gujarati Bachao Sanskriti Bachao
Just saw a page on Facebook, named “Gujarati Bachao Sanskriti Bachao”
Now a question came in my mind, “When one needs to save a language or civilization? Simple… When the language or civilization is dying. Now when does a language die… when the language is not getting changed with the time… right??
Why English is so popular today??? Reason is simple; the language has never been imposed upon anyone. You can speak English the way you want; it has so many versions and accents and it keep changing from generation to generation. Today we are not speaking the English which our forefathers were speaking like 20-30-40-50 years back. Apart from that, we use some words which are taken from some Indian language, without any hesitation. Seeing all these, did we hear any Britisher complaining about this??? No… Does it mean that he doesn’t love his mother tongue? Ofcourse he does… but he’s not worried about the changes just because he thinks that his language is not stagnant like ours. They know how to change with the time
And we?????? Today we do use words from other languages, but famous names of literature do not like this. They just don’t want to change with the time and want to pause themselves in that 5th decade of 20th century, which was Golden Period of Gujarati Literature. After listening to the dialogues of today’s Gujarati daily soaps, if you want us, the younger generation to “love” Gujarati, then sorry, we can’t do that. Just because we don’t like that extremely pure Gujarati language, full of jargons which we have not ever heard in our life. By the way, that’s why we hate Shakespeare, for his extremely pure language. Because, it’s not our language, it’s not simple to understand. That language is for CLASS and not for MASS.
Today youth of other states follow their regional language, just because, the literature of that language has changed with the time. Today they have movies and literature, which is the choice of today’s youth, where in Gujarati we have very few writers whose pen speaks language of youth and the rest of them are just opposing them. How can you accept the youth to respect the mother tongue, when the elders do not believe in the growth????
Same is the case with civilization. We keep saying how great our civilization was like 5000 yrs back, but what about now??? Whatever was there 5000 yrs back was perfect and good for that time and not for today. We need to change with time and then only we can be proud of our civilization, not by opposing the changes.
I guess that’s enough for any intelligent person, otherwise both the language & civilization will die…soon….
Now a question came in my mind, “When one needs to save a language or civilization? Simple… When the language or civilization is dying. Now when does a language die… when the language is not getting changed with the time… right??
Why English is so popular today??? Reason is simple; the language has never been imposed upon anyone. You can speak English the way you want; it has so many versions and accents and it keep changing from generation to generation. Today we are not speaking the English which our forefathers were speaking like 20-30-40-50 years back. Apart from that, we use some words which are taken from some Indian language, without any hesitation. Seeing all these, did we hear any Britisher complaining about this??? No… Does it mean that he doesn’t love his mother tongue? Ofcourse he does… but he’s not worried about the changes just because he thinks that his language is not stagnant like ours. They know how to change with the time
And we?????? Today we do use words from other languages, but famous names of literature do not like this. They just don’t want to change with the time and want to pause themselves in that 5th decade of 20th century, which was Golden Period of Gujarati Literature. After listening to the dialogues of today’s Gujarati daily soaps, if you want us, the younger generation to “love” Gujarati, then sorry, we can’t do that. Just because we don’t like that extremely pure Gujarati language, full of jargons which we have not ever heard in our life. By the way, that’s why we hate Shakespeare, for his extremely pure language. Because, it’s not our language, it’s not simple to understand. That language is for CLASS and not for MASS.
Today youth of other states follow their regional language, just because, the literature of that language has changed with the time. Today they have movies and literature, which is the choice of today’s youth, where in Gujarati we have very few writers whose pen speaks language of youth and the rest of them are just opposing them. How can you accept the youth to respect the mother tongue, when the elders do not believe in the growth????
Same is the case with civilization. We keep saying how great our civilization was like 5000 yrs back, but what about now??? Whatever was there 5000 yrs back was perfect and good for that time and not for today. We need to change with time and then only we can be proud of our civilization, not by opposing the changes.
I guess that’s enough for any intelligent person, otherwise both the language & civilization will die…soon….
Sunday, April 25, 2010
ગુજરાતી બચાવો સંસ્કૃતિ બચાવો : ખરેખર?????
હમણાં ફેસબુક ઉપર એક પેજ જોયું. જેનું નામ હતું “ગુજરાતી બચાવો સંસ્કૃતિ બચાવો”
સૌ પ્રથમ તો એક સવાલ... કોઈ સંસ્કૃતિ કે કોઈ ભાષા ને બચાવવાની જરૂર ક્યારે પડે? જયારે એ મરી રહી હોય ત્યારે.... ખરું? અને ભાષા મરે ક્યારે? જયારે એ ભાષા નવી પેઢી ને અનુસાર પોતાને બદલવા તૈયાર ના હોય ત્યારે....
આજે દુનિયાભરમાં ઈંગ્લીશની આટલી બોલબાલ છે...શા માટે? કારણ એક્દમ સિમ્પલ છે, એ ભાષા એ પોતાને માનવ સમાજ પર ભારે થવા દીધી નથી, તમે ગમે તે રીતે, ગમે તે સ્ટાઈલમાં આ ભાષા બોલી શકો છો અને પેઢી દર પેઢી એમાં જરૂર પ્રમાણે ફેરફાર થતા જાય છે.. આજે આપણે જે ઈંગ્લીશ બોલીએ છીએ એ આજ થી ૨૦-૩૦-૪૦-૫૦ વર્ષ પહેલા નહોતી બોલાતી, ઉપરાંત આજે જે શબ્દો જે મૂળ ભારતીય ભાષા નાં છે એ પણ આપણે બિન્દાસ વાપરીએ છીએ. આ બધું જોઈને શું કોઈ બ્રિટિશરએ આનો વિરોધ કર્યો? ના... શા માટે? શું એમને એમની ભાષા પ્રત્યે પ્રેમ નથી? ગર્વ નથી? ઓફકોર્સ એમને છે... તો શું એમને એમની સંસ્કૃતિ લુંટાઈ જવાનો ભય છે? ના એમને એ ભય નથી, કારણ સરળ છે: એમની સંસ્કૃતિને સમયની સાથે બદલાતા આવડે છે.
જયારે આપણે??? આપણને સમય ની સાથે બદલાવું ગમતું નથી. એના સૌથી સરળ ઉદાહરણ તરીકે કોઈ પણ ગુજરાતી ડીક્શનેરી લઇ જુઓ. ઈ.સ. ૧૯૪૦ પછી એમાં કોઈ નવી આવૃત્તિ બહાર આવી નથી,કારણ? આપણો શબ્દભંડોળ ત્યાં જ અટકી ગયો છે, અને એ કોઈ ને બદલવામાં રસ પણ નથી. કારણકે આપણા સાહિત્યના સભ્યો: લેખકો,કવિઓ વગેરે ભદ્રંભદ્રનાં સીધા વારસદાર છે. આજની ગુજરાતી સીરીઅલોમાં જે ડાયલોગ હોય છે એ સાંભળીને તમે જો આજની પેઢી પાસેથી ગુજરાતીની કદર કરવાની આશા રાખશો તો સોરી,અમે એ નહિ કરી શકીએ, કારણકે અમને શેક્સપીયરનાં ઈંગ્લીશથી પણ નફરત છે અને ભદ્રંભદ્રના ગુજરાતીથી પણ નફરત છે. કારણકે એ અમારી ભાષા નથી,એ સામાન્ય લોકો ની ભાષા નથી. It’s for class and not mass.
આજે દક્ષિણ ભારતમાં, ત્યાંની યુવા પેઢી તેમની માતૃભાષાને લઈને જાગૃત છે કારણકે એ ભાષાઓએ, તેમનાં સાહિત્યે યુવા પેઢીને અનુરૂપ લખ્યું છે, અને એ પેઢીને રસ પડે એ ભાષામાં,નહિ કે ભદ્રંભદ્ર કે શેક્સપિયરની ભાષામાં. જયારે ગુજરાતીમાં માંડ આંગળીના વેઢે ગણાય એટલા લેખકો યુવાપેઢીની ભાષા બોલે છે,અને બાકીના સાહિત્યકારો એમનો વિરોધ કરે છે. આ કરચલાવૃત્તિનાં રહેતા તમે આજની પેઢીને ભાષાનું ગૌરવ લેવાનું કઈ રીતે કહી શકો?
અને જો ગુજરાતીને બચાવવાની જરૂર આવી પડી હોય એવી કટોકટી સર્જાય તો પછી એવી ભાષાને સાચવીને કામ શું છે???
આવું જ સંસ્કૃતિનું છે, આપણે આપની ૫૦૦૦ વર્ષ જૂની સંસ્કૃતિની યશોગાથા ગાતાં બેસી રહીશું તો સંસ્કૃતિનો કંઈપણ ઉદ્ધાર નથી થવાનો, અને એમ જ સંસ્કૃતિ મરી પરવારશે. ૫૦૦૦ વર્ષ પહેલા જે પણ હતું તે એ સમયને અનુરૂપ હતું અને સમય સાથે તાલ મેળવીને ચાલવાથી જ સંસ્કૃતિની ગરિમા જળવાશે નહિ કે નવીનતાનો વિરોધ કરવાથી.
આનાથી વધારે તો શું કહું?? સમજદાર કો ઈશારા હી કાફી હૈ...
સૌ પ્રથમ તો એક સવાલ... કોઈ સંસ્કૃતિ કે કોઈ ભાષા ને બચાવવાની જરૂર ક્યારે પડે? જયારે એ મરી રહી હોય ત્યારે.... ખરું? અને ભાષા મરે ક્યારે? જયારે એ ભાષા નવી પેઢી ને અનુસાર પોતાને બદલવા તૈયાર ના હોય ત્યારે....
આજે દુનિયાભરમાં ઈંગ્લીશની આટલી બોલબાલ છે...શા માટે? કારણ એક્દમ સિમ્પલ છે, એ ભાષા એ પોતાને માનવ સમાજ પર ભારે થવા દીધી નથી, તમે ગમે તે રીતે, ગમે તે સ્ટાઈલમાં આ ભાષા બોલી શકો છો અને પેઢી દર પેઢી એમાં જરૂર પ્રમાણે ફેરફાર થતા જાય છે.. આજે આપણે જે ઈંગ્લીશ બોલીએ છીએ એ આજ થી ૨૦-૩૦-૪૦-૫૦ વર્ષ પહેલા નહોતી બોલાતી, ઉપરાંત આજે જે શબ્દો જે મૂળ ભારતીય ભાષા નાં છે એ પણ આપણે બિન્દાસ વાપરીએ છીએ. આ બધું જોઈને શું કોઈ બ્રિટિશરએ આનો વિરોધ કર્યો? ના... શા માટે? શું એમને એમની ભાષા પ્રત્યે પ્રેમ નથી? ગર્વ નથી? ઓફકોર્સ એમને છે... તો શું એમને એમની સંસ્કૃતિ લુંટાઈ જવાનો ભય છે? ના એમને એ ભય નથી, કારણ સરળ છે: એમની સંસ્કૃતિને સમયની સાથે બદલાતા આવડે છે.
જયારે આપણે??? આપણને સમય ની સાથે બદલાવું ગમતું નથી. એના સૌથી સરળ ઉદાહરણ તરીકે કોઈ પણ ગુજરાતી ડીક્શનેરી લઇ જુઓ. ઈ.સ. ૧૯૪૦ પછી એમાં કોઈ નવી આવૃત્તિ બહાર આવી નથી,કારણ? આપણો શબ્દભંડોળ ત્યાં જ અટકી ગયો છે, અને એ કોઈ ને બદલવામાં રસ પણ નથી. કારણકે આપણા સાહિત્યના સભ્યો: લેખકો,કવિઓ વગેરે ભદ્રંભદ્રનાં સીધા વારસદાર છે. આજની ગુજરાતી સીરીઅલોમાં જે ડાયલોગ હોય છે એ સાંભળીને તમે જો આજની પેઢી પાસેથી ગુજરાતીની કદર કરવાની આશા રાખશો તો સોરી,અમે એ નહિ કરી શકીએ, કારણકે અમને શેક્સપીયરનાં ઈંગ્લીશથી પણ નફરત છે અને ભદ્રંભદ્રના ગુજરાતીથી પણ નફરત છે. કારણકે એ અમારી ભાષા નથી,એ સામાન્ય લોકો ની ભાષા નથી. It’s for class and not mass.
આજે દક્ષિણ ભારતમાં, ત્યાંની યુવા પેઢી તેમની માતૃભાષાને લઈને જાગૃત છે કારણકે એ ભાષાઓએ, તેમનાં સાહિત્યે યુવા પેઢીને અનુરૂપ લખ્યું છે, અને એ પેઢીને રસ પડે એ ભાષામાં,નહિ કે ભદ્રંભદ્ર કે શેક્સપિયરની ભાષામાં. જયારે ગુજરાતીમાં માંડ આંગળીના વેઢે ગણાય એટલા લેખકો યુવાપેઢીની ભાષા બોલે છે,અને બાકીના સાહિત્યકારો એમનો વિરોધ કરે છે. આ કરચલાવૃત્તિનાં રહેતા તમે આજની પેઢીને ભાષાનું ગૌરવ લેવાનું કઈ રીતે કહી શકો?
અને જો ગુજરાતીને બચાવવાની જરૂર આવી પડી હોય એવી કટોકટી સર્જાય તો પછી એવી ભાષાને સાચવીને કામ શું છે???
આવું જ સંસ્કૃતિનું છે, આપણે આપની ૫૦૦૦ વર્ષ જૂની સંસ્કૃતિની યશોગાથા ગાતાં બેસી રહીશું તો સંસ્કૃતિનો કંઈપણ ઉદ્ધાર નથી થવાનો, અને એમ જ સંસ્કૃતિ મરી પરવારશે. ૫૦૦૦ વર્ષ પહેલા જે પણ હતું તે એ સમયને અનુરૂપ હતું અને સમય સાથે તાલ મેળવીને ચાલવાથી જ સંસ્કૃતિની ગરિમા જળવાશે નહિ કે નવીનતાનો વિરોધ કરવાથી.
આનાથી વધારે તો શું કહું?? સમજદાર કો ઈશારા હી કાફી હૈ...
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Woman Education
“Yaar I wanna earn good money and wanna support my husband and family, so that economical burden of the family can be shared, but my in-laws are not allowing me to do so” a told her friend b
In reply b said, “same is with me, I was earning handsome money before marriage, and even if given an opportunity I can support my family but my in-laws are not allowing me”
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Well this above cited dialogues can be hypothetical but so real in India. Well, maybe we r changing our life style and thinking, maybe we have accepted “woman independence” at some or the other level in life, but still there are families and social groups that are still conservative regarding their “bahus” leaving the house to earn money.
Some of the reader would think why I am writing about this even after “seeing” woman of my granny’s generation working and earning money. But the thing is, I belong to one of those very few social groups/societies where women are given all kind of freedom right from the beginning of their life. What about the others?
I did my graduation in Arts, I saw soooo many girls, having real capability and intention of making career, so brilliant that they can easily get through any good professional course, doing their specialization in some such kinda subject which hardly can be helpful in future. I asked some of them for their this decision, they said if they’d study more they would not get “good” grooms from their circle, some said their parents were not ready even for this, they had fought with their parents for their education.
I can’t understand why marriage is so important thing for a gal/woman and also when she has spent her 1/4th life educating herself & she can’t even use her knowledge to help her “family”?????? (In fact, sometimes they ignore her knowledge by saying “what would you know?”)
Girls, we have our own life. We can’t be dependent on our husband or in-laws or parents for each and every little thing. I know woman always has been a “second sex” and no one has ever taken her thoughts seriously, that is also just because we allow people to take decisions of life on our behalf. World is equal ours as much as theirs. We always think that he’s earning good money; hence he would be proven as a nice husband (just for economical reason?????). But nothing is constant in world, you don’t know what is there in future or how safe are you gonna be with that person. Just be yourself, any every stage of life…
(P.S.: dedicated to a real good friend of mine, who “left” her career after marriage and also to another great friend, who did not leave her career, in fact continued pursuing higher studies after marriage)
In reply b said, “same is with me, I was earning handsome money before marriage, and even if given an opportunity I can support my family but my in-laws are not allowing me”
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Well this above cited dialogues can be hypothetical but so real in India. Well, maybe we r changing our life style and thinking, maybe we have accepted “woman independence” at some or the other level in life, but still there are families and social groups that are still conservative regarding their “bahus” leaving the house to earn money.
Some of the reader would think why I am writing about this even after “seeing” woman of my granny’s generation working and earning money. But the thing is, I belong to one of those very few social groups/societies where women are given all kind of freedom right from the beginning of their life. What about the others?
I did my graduation in Arts, I saw soooo many girls, having real capability and intention of making career, so brilliant that they can easily get through any good professional course, doing their specialization in some such kinda subject which hardly can be helpful in future. I asked some of them for their this decision, they said if they’d study more they would not get “good” grooms from their circle, some said their parents were not ready even for this, they had fought with their parents for their education.
I can’t understand why marriage is so important thing for a gal/woman and also when she has spent her 1/4th life educating herself & she can’t even use her knowledge to help her “family”?????? (In fact, sometimes they ignore her knowledge by saying “what would you know?”)
Girls, we have our own life. We can’t be dependent on our husband or in-laws or parents for each and every little thing. I know woman always has been a “second sex” and no one has ever taken her thoughts seriously, that is also just because we allow people to take decisions of life on our behalf. World is equal ours as much as theirs. We always think that he’s earning good money; hence he would be proven as a nice husband (just for economical reason?????). But nothing is constant in world, you don’t know what is there in future or how safe are you gonna be with that person. Just be yourself, any every stage of life…
(P.S.: dedicated to a real good friend of mine, who “left” her career after marriage and also to another great friend, who did not leave her career, in fact continued pursuing higher studies after marriage)
Monday, March 29, 2010
Live-in Relationship- Curse or Boon:
Indian Supreme Court gave its “ultimate” decision last week, i.e., Live-in Relationships are legal in India now. This made many young people like me to have a healthy discussion over it and we did at a group on a social networking site.
This discussion is still going on (I think now the “flame” of argument has slowed down a bit). I saw one thing in this discussion; the whole group was divided in to 2 parts: supporters and opponents. Supporters were constantly trying to show the IMPORTANCE and positive side of Live-In where opponents were showing their tension for “Bharatiya Sanskriti” and “Bharatiya Rit-Rasm”.
But suddenly from all these people, a few of them created a new group: Neutral… They were ready to accept this “change” in society, but at the same time wanted to follow that typical Indian Mindset…
Well, this is just what I read on that group (of course, I too was a part of this discussion); now let me put my views on Live-In over here.
Before beginning, let me tell u about the culture from where this type of relationship has come, that is American Culture. Their society has quite free mind set. Free doesn’t mean that they allow their children to wear whatever they like, but free in the sense that they encourage their children to be independent. They respect independence of their children and allow them to do whatever they like, because they believe in them. Now again people will say that because of this independence the youth is this level’s worst, but while saying this they won’t think that not all of them are of this type, just like not whole India is made up of Slums or Basti…
Other thing, Live-In came in their life is because children in USA are not assets of their parents, hence as soon as a kid enters in his teen age or in some worse cases as soon as s/he becomes an adult his/her parents allow him/her to live the life in their own way & that’s why there are so many nuclear family in USA. Now being a social animal, living alone is not possible, hence they look for companion. Obviously if u love someone or u r committed to someone u like to be with that person, as we all do after that big big weddings and marriage. So, before getting married this is their way to decide whether they would be comfortable with the partner, because they don’t have their parents to decide their life. That’s why Living-In is so popular with them.
By now u must have understood that I’m in support side of Live-In relationship, but again let me tell u I am not, because Kahani main Twist is:
Live-In is a bit odd for Indian couple, not because of some “Bharatiya Sanskriti” bakwas, but just because even in 21st century children are assets of their parents in India, even though they are old enough to take care of themselves and we youth enjoy this. That’s why we believe that the partner they choose for us is the best for us as they know what is good for us. And that’s why India can never be a super power, because for being a super power we, young people of India have to take initiative to change the society, because having a better economy or a good GDP or annual growth rate is not enough. And where you can’t have same idea even after 5 years then culture having 5000+ yrs old history is not something to be proud of because to make this culture 10000 yr old, we have to make changes in that…. So either forget Live-in relationship or take initiative to change the mindset
This discussion is still going on (I think now the “flame” of argument has slowed down a bit). I saw one thing in this discussion; the whole group was divided in to 2 parts: supporters and opponents. Supporters were constantly trying to show the IMPORTANCE and positive side of Live-In where opponents were showing their tension for “Bharatiya Sanskriti” and “Bharatiya Rit-Rasm”.
But suddenly from all these people, a few of them created a new group: Neutral… They were ready to accept this “change” in society, but at the same time wanted to follow that typical Indian Mindset…
Well, this is just what I read on that group (of course, I too was a part of this discussion); now let me put my views on Live-In over here.
Before beginning, let me tell u about the culture from where this type of relationship has come, that is American Culture. Their society has quite free mind set. Free doesn’t mean that they allow their children to wear whatever they like, but free in the sense that they encourage their children to be independent. They respect independence of their children and allow them to do whatever they like, because they believe in them. Now again people will say that because of this independence the youth is this level’s worst, but while saying this they won’t think that not all of them are of this type, just like not whole India is made up of Slums or Basti…
Other thing, Live-In came in their life is because children in USA are not assets of their parents, hence as soon as a kid enters in his teen age or in some worse cases as soon as s/he becomes an adult his/her parents allow him/her to live the life in their own way & that’s why there are so many nuclear family in USA. Now being a social animal, living alone is not possible, hence they look for companion. Obviously if u love someone or u r committed to someone u like to be with that person, as we all do after that big big weddings and marriage. So, before getting married this is their way to decide whether they would be comfortable with the partner, because they don’t have their parents to decide their life. That’s why Living-In is so popular with them.
By now u must have understood that I’m in support side of Live-In relationship, but again let me tell u I am not, because Kahani main Twist is:
Live-In is a bit odd for Indian couple, not because of some “Bharatiya Sanskriti” bakwas, but just because even in 21st century children are assets of their parents in India, even though they are old enough to take care of themselves and we youth enjoy this. That’s why we believe that the partner they choose for us is the best for us as they know what is good for us. And that’s why India can never be a super power, because for being a super power we, young people of India have to take initiative to change the society, because having a better economy or a good GDP or annual growth rate is not enough. And where you can’t have same idea even after 5 years then culture having 5000+ yrs old history is not something to be proud of because to make this culture 10000 yr old, we have to make changes in that…. So either forget Live-in relationship or take initiative to change the mindset
Friday, March 19, 2010
The difference between Venus and Mars
Today I came across an amazing thought/one liner by a friend of mine. It said, Stri no Prem Ghughavta Mahasagar jevo hoy chhe jyare purush no prem Naigara Falls jevo hoy chhe( Translation, woman loves with all emotions in her, like an ocean where man loves with showing his emotions after a real long time). That remind me of Chandrakant Baxi, one of my favorite authors, he once said that for woman Love is something that starts from her heart and ends at her body, where for man it starts from his body and ends at heart.
That is how totally different Man and Woman are. Man or Male is a logical gender, they always think think & think… Even for loving someone of opposite sex, they’d like (I guess, u all r always welcome to correct me) “Why I like her?”, “Does she like me too?”, “Why is she so mad for me?”, “What is love?”, “How is that possible with me?” etc
We gals don’t understand all these 1s & 0s when it comes about feelings, for us it’s all illogical, we never ever think about such things like “whether that guy would be equally crazy for me” or “Why I love this ‘jerk’”. We just follow our heart in some matters. & that’s y it hurts us most when someone doesn’t stand true on our expectations.
Saw this in ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’, that a guy has three stages for recovery after a break up:
1) sweat pants stage, 2) Going to Strip club stage and 3) Imagine one’s self with other gal/s.
For us there is no such stage, we try to hide our tears from world & open up with close friends, she-friends. This is it, because guys have kept hurting us all the time during the relationship, by not understanding us and by not being mental support for us. Just read a real nice poem by Aesha Dadawala, suggesting same meaning, though it goes for both gender sometimes.
Just a request to all guys out there…. Please try to understand us, we use heart as thinking organ, we do things “direct dil se” & even ur small like atom mistake hurts us real bad.
& yea, don’t give false promise or false hope to any gal, coz she has dreams for her “life”, since she becomes “woman” and it feels too bad when dreams shattered….
No hard feelings for anyone….. Love ya all….
(P.S.: this doesn’t mean that Man doesn’t have feelings)
That is how totally different Man and Woman are. Man or Male is a logical gender, they always think think & think… Even for loving someone of opposite sex, they’d like (I guess, u all r always welcome to correct me) “Why I like her?”, “Does she like me too?”, “Why is she so mad for me?”, “What is love?”, “How is that possible with me?” etc
We gals don’t understand all these 1s & 0s when it comes about feelings, for us it’s all illogical, we never ever think about such things like “whether that guy would be equally crazy for me” or “Why I love this ‘jerk’”. We just follow our heart in some matters. & that’s y it hurts us most when someone doesn’t stand true on our expectations.
Saw this in ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’, that a guy has three stages for recovery after a break up:
1) sweat pants stage, 2) Going to Strip club stage and 3) Imagine one’s self with other gal/s.
For us there is no such stage, we try to hide our tears from world & open up with close friends, she-friends. This is it, because guys have kept hurting us all the time during the relationship, by not understanding us and by not being mental support for us. Just read a real nice poem by Aesha Dadawala, suggesting same meaning, though it goes for both gender sometimes.
Just a request to all guys out there…. Please try to understand us, we use heart as thinking organ, we do things “direct dil se” & even ur small like atom mistake hurts us real bad.
& yea, don’t give false promise or false hope to any gal, coz she has dreams for her “life”, since she becomes “woman” and it feels too bad when dreams shattered….
No hard feelings for anyone….. Love ya all….
(P.S.: this doesn’t mean that Man doesn’t have feelings)
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Women Freedom and Brahmkshatriya Mentality
Yesterday it was "International Women's Day", people celebrated it with all sorta "joy" (yea it includes pun & sarcasm). Some statements on Facebook/Orkut make me think that being Indian do they really respect women????????
Talking about women freedom, I never had any problem such as being career oriented or selecting course of my choice etc, which gals of my age are generally just "dream". I knew at somewhat level why I have such privileges, but yesterday I got confirmation from my father himself. He'd written on his Facebook status, something like this:
"Proud to be from a community which has incomparable women freedom since last 200yrs +"
Now u'd think what so great in this status message..well it's these 3 words what makes this status message special, "incomparable women freedom"
People who know me well, know that I'm bold enough to make people discuss on just 1 matter ,i.e. "Dress code for Women/gals @ pilgrim places" for like days & even participating in that so aggressively that people literally asked me if that thing happened to me in real.
Well,that's what I am,or should I say a Brahmkshatriya lady. Yeah, my relatives would understand the meaning of this phrase.
First of all, what are the basic attributes of Brahmkshatriya...
A Brahmkshatriya is generally calm, witty, having large appetite(in short foodie), having good administrative sense, Brahmkshatriya men generally do just two things, earn money & give the responsibility of that earned money to the respective head lady of the house(yes we have "head lady”, not "head man"). About his social liability, first of all, he's generally the most confused person regarding all kinda relations, special blood relations, & becoz of that he can't take any major social decisions like what he is supposed to do at some social function like marriage. In my dad’s words, “ ame loko lagan prasange khali 2 kaam karie, khavanu khaie ane varghodo/procession ma aagal chalie” (translation: we do only 2 things during a wedding, eating and being in front row during procession)
Well, I said, we r generally calm, but this generally has a very big hidden meaning. We can get angry even on a very small matter, arre, we can even get angry when two totally unknown for us persons are fighting. That’s y we claim, Hanuman was Brahmkshatriya (LOL).
Now about Brahmkshatriya Lady…
Well, she is well-read, usually career oriented, habituated of freedom & that’s why can’t tolerate a guy having “Bossing” attitude or in simple words (people who know me) someone exactly like me.
That’s why I had that debate regarding dress code @ pilgrim places, even though I’ve never faced that problem (rem Hanuman thing??? :D)
Oops… In whole this loooooong writing, I forgot to tell u what is Brahmkshatriya? Who are we? Don’t worry, I won’t bore u with that today, I’ll tell that in my next post soon… till then…bbye…
Talking about women freedom, I never had any problem such as being career oriented or selecting course of my choice etc, which gals of my age are generally just "dream". I knew at somewhat level why I have such privileges, but yesterday I got confirmation from my father himself. He'd written on his Facebook status, something like this:
"Proud to be from a community which has incomparable women freedom since last 200yrs +"
Now u'd think what so great in this status message..well it's these 3 words what makes this status message special, "incomparable women freedom"
People who know me well, know that I'm bold enough to make people discuss on just 1 matter ,i.e. "Dress code for Women/gals @ pilgrim places" for like days & even participating in that so aggressively that people literally asked me if that thing happened to me in real.
Well,that's what I am,or should I say a Brahmkshatriya lady. Yeah, my relatives would understand the meaning of this phrase.
First of all, what are the basic attributes of Brahmkshatriya...
A Brahmkshatriya is generally calm, witty, having large appetite(in short foodie), having good administrative sense, Brahmkshatriya men generally do just two things, earn money & give the responsibility of that earned money to the respective head lady of the house(yes we have "head lady”, not "head man"). About his social liability, first of all, he's generally the most confused person regarding all kinda relations, special blood relations, & becoz of that he can't take any major social decisions like what he is supposed to do at some social function like marriage. In my dad’s words, “ ame loko lagan prasange khali 2 kaam karie, khavanu khaie ane varghodo/procession ma aagal chalie” (translation: we do only 2 things during a wedding, eating and being in front row during procession)
Well, I said, we r generally calm, but this generally has a very big hidden meaning. We can get angry even on a very small matter, arre, we can even get angry when two totally unknown for us persons are fighting. That’s y we claim, Hanuman was Brahmkshatriya (LOL).
Now about Brahmkshatriya Lady…
Well, she is well-read, usually career oriented, habituated of freedom & that’s why can’t tolerate a guy having “Bossing” attitude or in simple words (people who know me) someone exactly like me.
That’s why I had that debate regarding dress code @ pilgrim places, even though I’ve never faced that problem (rem Hanuman thing??? :D)
Oops… In whole this loooooong writing, I forgot to tell u what is Brahmkshatriya? Who are we? Don’t worry, I won’t bore u with that today, I’ll tell that in my next post soon… till then…bbye…
Monday, February 8, 2010
Ramoji Film city: A magical World
“Anna Rasclaa…. Minddd itt…”
Remember this dialogue of “Om Shanti Om”?????? Yeah the movie was “not-more-than-2 time” watch, but still the sets of movie must have left the impression on your mind. That’s just because it’s a real Film City. Almost whole movie’s shooting was done here, in Ramoji Film City.
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If u r planning to go to Hyderabad via railway, then board off at Secunderabad and from there take Hyderabad-Vijaywada highway. After a “small” drive of approx. 20 kms, u’ll see a HUUUUUGGGGGEEEEEEEE gate with big words written on in “RAMOJI FILM CITY”. And when u enter there, u’d feel like u’ve entered in an entirely new city…..
This is just beginning of this place….
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Ramoji Film City is the world’s largest integrated film studio complex at over 2,000 acres of land. It is also a popular tourism and recreation centre, containing both natural and artificial attractions including an amusement park. The authorities have arranged few RED BUSES (just like we see in some movies that shows London city) that take visitors around the studio. The visit usually includes:
a Japanese garden, the ETV planet (a multi-purpose editing suit), a pool, artificial waterfalls, an airport terminal, hospital set, railway station, churches, mosques and temples, shopping plazas, palace interiors, chateaus, rural complexes, urban dwellings, and a winding highway. Shops include Parade, a prop-shop, where costumes of actors can be ordered and Shangrila, a nursery that sells exotic plants. This Film city has also 'Ramoji Film Magic' which shows about the behind-the-scene activities involved in movie making.
RFC has a five star hotel and a three star hotel with an attached restaurant, besides one coffee house.
DO NOT MISS IT:
The “WILD WILD WEST” show… It’s stunt performance… In the beginning u might feel like ‘what’s going on……’ but later it’ll get interesting… & specially the Telugu commentary of the show will definitely give u a RAJNIKANTH effect to the whole show, which u’ll definitely enjoy as at one point or other we all love him for his crazy stunts…. M I right???? ;)
A TIP:
Don’t make it one day picnic, unless u live in Hyderabad. Please stay in either of these two hotels “TARA-SITARA”, & if possible plan ur vacation such way that u can spend 2 WHOLE days in this studio..
Friday, January 8, 2010
Coffee with Buddha
Hey People…back with my wandering…
Now u will think that what’s the connection of title to the wandering? But there is some connection…..
Well… Let’s first talk about Buddha & then we’ll discuss the title (I promise I won’t bore u…. :P)
Hyderabad has a really nice lake, named ‘Hussain Sagar’. It is famous as largest manmade lake in India. In the middle of this lake there is a huge statue of Lord Buddha.
The 16 meter tall, 350 tonne (approx.) monolithic Buddha statue is situated in the middle of the Hussain Sagar Lake, silhouetted against the sunset. It is made of white granite and is the largest statues in all over the world.
Apart from this statue, which indeed a great thing, Hussain Sagar has lots of amazing places. Like Lumbini Park, from where u catch the ferry ride to the statue, a really nice food court, etc.
Lumbini Park is just like some amusement park. They have this really beautiful Laser show, which was not working when we visited that because of the bomb blast which took place just 2 months before our visit. From here they have regular ferries to the middle of the lake which u can catch to visit the Buddha Statue.
So this is the story of Buddha… Now let’s have some coffee with him…
The cafeteria a.k.a. food court on the side of Lake has some really good places like Pizza Hut, Subway & my most favoutire Amore… Amore is a Gelato parlor & just like any other Gelato parlor this one too has some really nice flavors like cookie & cream, Ferraro Rocher, Dark Chocolate & some usual Sorebeto. Apart from that, they also serve really nice coffee. We visited this place twice, first day I just tried my usual flavor of Gelato (which I tried first time then) and on second day FIRST TIME IN MY WHOLE LIFE TILL THAT DAY, I tried a pure Espresso coffee. Yes (to those who know how crazy I get for an espresso) me too find it ‘YUCK’ on first sip & thought to give up. But I don’t know what was going on in my mind or in my heart I did finished that cup & that was the time I really got crazy for Espresso, which I still am…. May at that time Buddha was there, telling me go on it’s gonna be ur most favorite type of coffee… ;)
Now u will think that what’s the connection of title to the wandering? But there is some connection…..
Well… Let’s first talk about Buddha & then we’ll discuss the title (I promise I won’t bore u…. :P)
Hyderabad has a really nice lake, named ‘Hussain Sagar’. It is famous as largest manmade lake in India. In the middle of this lake there is a huge statue of Lord Buddha.
The 16 meter tall, 350 tonne (approx.) monolithic Buddha statue is situated in the middle of the Hussain Sagar Lake, silhouetted against the sunset. It is made of white granite and is the largest statues in all over the world.
Apart from this statue, which indeed a great thing, Hussain Sagar has lots of amazing places. Like Lumbini Park, from where u catch the ferry ride to the statue, a really nice food court, etc.
Lumbini Park is just like some amusement park. They have this really beautiful Laser show, which was not working when we visited that because of the bomb blast which took place just 2 months before our visit. From here they have regular ferries to the middle of the lake which u can catch to visit the Buddha Statue.
So this is the story of Buddha… Now let’s have some coffee with him…
The cafeteria a.k.a. food court on the side of Lake has some really good places like Pizza Hut, Subway & my most favoutire Amore… Amore is a Gelato parlor & just like any other Gelato parlor this one too has some really nice flavors like cookie & cream, Ferraro Rocher, Dark Chocolate & some usual Sorebeto. Apart from that, they also serve really nice coffee. We visited this place twice, first day I just tried my usual flavor of Gelato (which I tried first time then) and on second day FIRST TIME IN MY WHOLE LIFE TILL THAT DAY, I tried a pure Espresso coffee. Yes (to those who know how crazy I get for an espresso) me too find it ‘YUCK’ on first sip & thought to give up. But I don’t know what was going on in my mind or in my heart I did finished that cup & that was the time I really got crazy for Espresso, which I still am…. May at that time Buddha was there, telling me go on it’s gonna be ur most favorite type of coffee… ;)
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