Thursday, April 15, 2010

Woman Education

“Yaar I wanna earn good money and wanna support my husband and family, so that economical burden of the family can be shared, but my in-laws are not allowing me to do so” a told her friend b
In reply b said, “same is with me, I was earning handsome money before marriage, and even if given an opportunity I can support my family but my in-laws are not allowing me”
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Well this above cited dialogues can be hypothetical but so real in India. Well, maybe we r changing our life style and thinking, maybe we have accepted “woman independence” at some or the other level in life, but still there are families and social groups that are still conservative regarding their “bahus” leaving the house to earn money.



Some of the reader would think why I am writing about this even after “seeing” woman of my granny’s generation working and earning money. But the thing is, I belong to one of those very few social groups/societies where women are given all kind of freedom right from the beginning of their life. What about the others?



I did my graduation in Arts, I saw soooo many girls, having real capability and intention of making career, so brilliant that they can easily get through any good professional course, doing their specialization in some such kinda subject which hardly can be helpful in future. I asked some of them for their this decision, they said if they’d study more they would not get “good” grooms from their circle, some said their parents were not ready even for this, they had fought with their parents for their education.



I can’t understand why marriage is so important thing for a gal/woman and also when she has spent her 1/4th life educating herself & she can’t even use her knowledge to help her “family”?????? (In fact, sometimes they ignore her knowledge by saying “what would you know?”)



Girls, we have our own life. We can’t be dependent on our husband or in-laws or parents for each and every little thing. I know woman always has been a “second sex” and no one has ever taken her thoughts seriously, that is also just because we allow people to take decisions of life on our behalf. World is equal ours as much as theirs. We always think that he’s earning good money; hence he would be proven as a nice husband (just for economical reason?????). But nothing is constant in world, you don’t know what is there in future or how safe are you gonna be with that person. Just be yourself, any every stage of life…




(P.S.: dedicated to a real good friend of mine, who “left” her career after marriage and also to another great friend, who did not leave her career, in fact continued pursuing higher studies after marriage)

7 comments:

  1. Aakanksha Rocks Yet another Time...!

    What a Thought!!!

    Well, for such cases couple should mutually decide about their careers...not the other family members.

    I honestly feel, these days are also changing...now Men are showing respect to women & their career.

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  2. Ah.. Women liberation, the aquarian in me totally supports the cause.. But yesterday i was almost run down over by female driver.. Not being chauvinist here, but Please for God's sake drive safely.. And be quick to take decisions on the road.. A crazy aunty driving is worse than drunken driving.. I think u should take up the cause, for such ppl actually bring abt the label weaker sex..

    -Prashant Sinha aka Mr.Sin

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  3. @AK
    u have shown mirror to our society's double standards!
    people here just make rules for female, what to do, what not to, where to go, what to wear and so on!
    before marriage she has to ask father and after marriage husband or in-laws! why?
    If u r working before wedding its ok! but after marriage ! oops!

    i have struggled a lot to do my masters and to continue job after marriage, just succeeded because of my understanding hubby! but all females dnt get such support and have to live a life others direct!
    my own uncle and aunt dnt allow my bhabhi to work! i wonder why they were seeking a highly educated wife for their son?
    society s strange!
    hope situation will change till my kid will grow up!

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  4. @ Prashant:
    yea..there are women who drives like hell... but again it's all because their family don't have faith in them... they always like "u can't do this, u can't do that". I think u need a ride with me ;)

    @ Bhooms:
    Babes, Heer is your darling daughter... she'll be rockstar just like u... ;) :)

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  5. Few points which came to my mind...
    * Ideally marriage & working should not be mixed. At the max they should be complimentory to each other , but both are diff issues of life.
    * Getting married at "Optimal" age always helps, Families & youngsters should not forget that. (Your children in 10th std when u r 60, is idiotic)
    *One should work & earn. From office or home is a matter of convinience/choice/adjustment.
    *"Why U should work? No need of money" is most idiotic statement. See Mrs.Ambani sweating on cricket grounds during all Mumbai Indian matches.
    *It is not that society will & is improving as time passes. See news reports of Taliban style "Khat Panchayat" in North India.
    Society needs one more Dayanand Saraswati.

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  6. you have wrote really great AK..hates off for this topic...

    good ..

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  7. Hi, very nice.

    kindly read same thoughts on http://vicharshrushti.blogspot.com/2011/08/blog-post.html

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