Indian Supreme Court gave its “ultimate” decision last week, i.e., Live-in Relationships are legal in India now. This made many young people like me to have a healthy discussion over it and we did at a group on a social networking site.
This discussion is still going on (I think now the “flame” of argument has slowed down a bit). I saw one thing in this discussion; the whole group was divided in to 2 parts: supporters and opponents. Supporters were constantly trying to show the IMPORTANCE and positive side of Live-In where opponents were showing their tension for “Bharatiya Sanskriti” and “Bharatiya Rit-Rasm”.
But suddenly from all these people, a few of them created a new group: Neutral… They were ready to accept this “change” in society, but at the same time wanted to follow that typical Indian Mindset…
Well, this is just what I read on that group (of course, I too was a part of this discussion); now let me put my views on Live-In over here.
Before beginning, let me tell u about the culture from where this type of relationship has come, that is American Culture. Their society has quite free mind set. Free doesn’t mean that they allow their children to wear whatever they like, but free in the sense that they encourage their children to be independent. They respect independence of their children and allow them to do whatever they like, because they believe in them. Now again people will say that because of this independence the youth is this level’s worst, but while saying this they won’t think that not all of them are of this type, just like not whole India is made up of Slums or Basti…
Other thing, Live-In came in their life is because children in USA are not assets of their parents, hence as soon as a kid enters in his teen age or in some worse cases as soon as s/he becomes an adult his/her parents allow him/her to live the life in their own way & that’s why there are so many nuclear family in USA. Now being a social animal, living alone is not possible, hence they look for companion. Obviously if u love someone or u r committed to someone u like to be with that person, as we all do after that big big weddings and marriage. So, before getting married this is their way to decide whether they would be comfortable with the partner, because they don’t have their parents to decide their life. That’s why Living-In is so popular with them.
By now u must have understood that I’m in support side of Live-In relationship, but again let me tell u I am not, because Kahani main Twist is:
Live-In is a bit odd for Indian couple, not because of some “Bharatiya Sanskriti” bakwas, but just because even in 21st century children are assets of their parents in India, even though they are old enough to take care of themselves and we youth enjoy this. That’s why we believe that the partner they choose for us is the best for us as they know what is good for us. And that’s why India can never be a super power, because for being a super power we, young people of India have to take initiative to change the society, because having a better economy or a good GDP or annual growth rate is not enough. And where you can’t have same idea even after 5 years then culture having 5000+ yrs old history is not something to be proud of because to make this culture 10000 yr old, we have to make changes in that…. So either forget Live-in relationship or take initiative to change the mindset
I think discussing d pros n cons which wud really affect individuals cud contribute to dis discussion enormously.N of course if d old customs do seem quixotic to our age they must b obliterated.But is it profitable to get in a live in relationship or wud it b more lucrative to get married.Ur views?
ReplyDeleteAgain as I told in my post it's totally depend on ur mentality.... & I guess to know someone, specially with whom u gonna get married, simple dating is not enough.. coz that wont bring up people's negative side, as we never go on a date without properly dressed or something... Atleast Live-in helps in that part of dating
ReplyDelete"I think now the “flame” of argument has slowed down a bit"
ReplyDeleteture ...m agreed in this point
"children are assets of their parents in India"
i have felt it n still feeling this damn too..you have wrote all thigs which are indeed themselves..
Well, it is up to the 2 individuals who want to be in such relationship.
ReplyDeleteThe SC might have considered the "freedom-rights" of human being to choose his/her lifestyle.
This sounds impractical 2day in India, but could be better option for "just-dating" in near future :)
@AK,
ReplyDeletei strongly believe, parents should not consider their kids as their assets! and let them do what they want! when they are likely to make mistake, parents should just guide, still if kids dnt understand, they should have been given freedom to make mistakes and learn from it!
If my kid one fine day decides to have live in, I will not b a lot shocked, though will make some issues clear to her!
nice post must say! keep on posting regly!
Intelligent post. Almost stole my words. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the blog post buddy! Keep them coming... Relationship tips
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