Ahmedabad

Well.... wanted to write on Ahmedabad since long.... but guess this video tells you a lot about my hometown, and may be all I wanted to say...


12 दरवाजों से घिरा शहर अहमदाबाद

Google Translate with Gujarati as alpha langugae : Trial

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Marriages and Indian Mindset

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Within just a few weeks but I heard two dayalogsa:


Dialog 1:

"No bapa!! Partners of people in your field you sodhajo, then select with the adjustment of our past we are not hearing from old wrong "

"It is OK, but when mamma, I am now three - four boys, like, these are the final karaje Help, Please"

"OK, it's time to talk a while, but yes, we do not find it I decided to be a boy"



Dialog 2:

"Mom, I do XYZ, I married another girl to do with it?"

"Natani because it is not our girl, the other natani - in other cultures"

"It is what is the difference? And the Lucky - Unidentified girl with no forced marriage, how do I do? We met the first two are not the same, and the half - a pona hours to decide together how I can I do? "

"What is it? And your dad is in the same way I've been married, what does it do you? "

"....."

"..."

& It goes on and on and on ... Until "bakaro" martyr of the ....

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There have been growing at etreksana opojhita Sex / Love 's is not possible.




Daily Youth wants everything fast, he wants to lead, as expected. I choose not to do it together and it is, then, is that they are kariara Life.
The links here are the biggest problem is the question of when life partner. Boy / girl to choose her own with paranavum and there - with the parents to select the people to marry. The final results arise from this are either struggling and angry parents are either permanent life (and even vaipha) has an agreement with a partner shortly after the altercation with the results.


Like many of you have been automatically manamanam rusana then.


People believe that Love - Marriage is the ultimate result of divorce, but who am I to kapalsane also olakhum society (meaning that gharavala) of the opposition going to be married (ophakorsa Love Marriage), and four - with a four-decade.


I see a marriage ceremony, It's celebration of Love. Kase in the world - except India - Marriage and Love Marriage is not part of the arenja are provided. This great festival in which people are free to marry daughter tells the people's wishes were not seen.


This also means that the whole debate of Love - Marriage is a dream the same thing. Today's parents are now also changed, but the parents who saw the first event, but very low numbers. Mejoriti other social event like a parent. The sake of happiness to any child - parents need to see happiness in the marriage in respect of the people, not the "goats" will be martyred ..

an interesting email : HINDU

Found this through email, interesting one:

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WHY I AM A HINDU- I am a Hindu by birth... MUST READ

I thought you might find this interesting.

Four years ago, I was flying from JFK NY Airport to SFO to attend a
meeting at Monterey , CA An American girl was sitting on the right side,
near window seat. It indeed was a long journey - it would take nearly
seven hours.

I was surprised to see the young girl reading a Bible unusual of young
Americans. After some time she smiled and we had few acquaintances
talk.I told her that I am from India
Then suddenly the girl asked: 'What's your faith?' 'What?' I didn't
understand the question.
'I mean, what's your religion? Are you a Christian? Or a Muslim?'
'No!' I replied, 'I am neither Christian nor Muslim'.
Apparently she appeared shocked to listen to that. 'Then who are you?'
'I am a Hindu', I said.
She looked at me as if she was seeing a caged animal. She could not
understand what I was talking about.
A common man in Europe or US knows about Christianity and Islam, as they
are the leading religions of the world today.
But a Hindu, what?
I explained to her - I am born to a Hindu father and Hindu mother.
Therefore, I am a Hindu by birth.
'Who is your prophet?' she asked.
'We don't have a prophet,' I replied.
'What's your Holy Book?'
'We don't have a single Holy Book, but we have hundreds and thousands of
philosophical and sacred scriptures,' I replied.
'Oh, come onat least tell me who is your God?'
'What do you mean by that?'
'Like we have Jesus and Muslims have Allah - don't you have a God?'
I thought for a moment. Muslims and Christians believe one God (Male
God) who created the world and takes an interest in the humans who
inhabit it. Her mind is conditioned with that kind of belief.
According to her (or anybody who doesn't know about Hinduism), a
religion needs to have one Prophet, one Holy book and one God. The mind
is so conditioned and rigidly narrowed down to such a notion that
anything else is not acceptable. I understood her perception and concept
about faith. You can't compare Hinduism with any of the present leading
religions where you have to believe in one concept of god.
I tried to explain to her: 'You can believe in one god and he can be a
Hindu. You may believe in multiple deities and still you can be a Hindu.
What's more - you may not believe in god at all, still you can be a
Hindu. An atheist can also be a Hindu.'
This sounded very crazy to her. She couldn't imagine a religion so
unorganized, still surviving for thousands of years, even after
onslaught from foreign forces.
'I don't understand but it seems very interesting. Are you religious?'
What can I tell to this American girl?
I said: 'I do not go to temple regularly. I do not make any regular
rituals. I have learned some of the rituals in my younger days. I still
enjoy doing it sometimes.'
'Enjoy? Are you not afraid of God?'
'God is a friend. No- I am not afraid of God. Nobody has made any
compulsions on me to perform these rituals regularly.'
She thought for a while and then asked: 'Have you ever thought of
converting to any other religion?'
'Why should I? Even if I challenge some of the rituals and faith in
Hinduism, nobody can convert me from Hinduism. Because, being a Hindu
allows me to think independently and objectively, without conditioning.
I remain as a Hindu never by force, but choice.' I told her that
Hinduism is not a religion, but a set of beliefs and practices. It is
not a religion like Christianity or Islam because it is not founded by
any one person or does not have an organized controlling body like the
Church or the Order, I added. There is no institution or authority.
'So, you don't believe in God?' she wanted everything in black and
white.
'I didn't say that. I do not discard the divine reality. Our scripture,
or Sruthis or Smrithis - Vedas and Upanishads or the Gita - say God
might be there or he might not be there. But we pray to that supreme
abstract authority (Para Brahma) that is the creator of this universe.'
'Why can't you believe in one personal God?'
'We have a concept - abstract - not a personal god. The concept or
notion of a personal God, hiding behind the clouds of secrecy, telling
us irrational stories through few men whom he sends as messengers,
demanding us to worship him or punish us, does not make sense. I don't
think that God is as silly as an autocratic emperor who wants others to
respect him or fear him.' I told her that such notions are just fancies
of less educated human imagination and fallacies, adding that generally
ethnic religious practitioners in Hinduism believe in personal gods. The
entry level Hinduism has over-whelming superstitions too. The
philosophical side of Hinduism negates all superstitions.
'Good that you agree God might exist. You told that you pray. What is
your prayer then?'
'Loka Samastha Sukino Bhavantu. Om Shanti, Shanti, Shanti,'
'Funny,' she laughed, 'What does it mean?'
'May all the beings in all the worlds be happy. Om Peace, Peace, Peace.'

'Hmm ..very interesting. I want to learn more about this religion. It is
so democratic, broad-minded and free' she exclaimed.
'The fact is Hinduism is a religion of the individual, for the
individual and by the individual with its roots in the Vedas and the
Bhagavad-Gita. It is all about an individual approaching a personal God
in an individual way according to his temperament and inner evolution -
it is as simple as that.'
'How does anybody convert to Hinduism?'
'Nobody can convert you to Hinduism, because it is not a religion, but a
set of beliefs and practices. Everything is acceptable in Hinduism
because there is no single authority or organization either to accept it
or to reject it or to oppose it on behalf of Hinduism.'
I told her - if you look for meaning in life, don't look for it in
religions; don't go from one cult to another or from one guru to the
next.
For a real seeker, I told her, the Bible itself gives guidelines when it
says ' Kingdom of God is within you.' I reminded her of Christ's
teaching about the love that we have for each other. That is where you
can find the meaning of life.
Loving each and every creation of the God is absolute and real.
'Isavasyam idam sarvam' Isam (the God) is present (inhabits) here
everywhere - nothing exists separate from the God, because God is
present everywhere. Respect every living being and non-living things as
God. That's what Hinduism teaches you.
Hinduism is referred to as Sanathana Dharma, the eternal faith. It is
based on the practice of Dharma, the code of life. The most important
aspect of Hinduism is being truthful to oneself. Hinduism has no
monopoly on ideas.- It is open to all. Hindus believe in one God (not a
personal one) expressed in different forms. For them, God is timeless
and formless entity.
Ancestors of today's Hindus believe in eternal truths and cosmic laws
and these truths are opened to anyone who seeks them. But there is a
section of Hindus who are either superstitious or turned fanatic to make
this an organized religion like others. The British coin the word
'Hindu' and considered it as a religion.
I said: 'Religions have become an MLM (multi-level- marketing)industry
that has been trying to expand the market share by conversion. The
biggest business in today's world is Spirituality. Hinduism is no
exception'
I am a Hindu primarily because it professes Non-violence - 'Ahimsa
Paramo Dharma' - Non violence is the highest duty. I am a Hindu because
it doesn't conditions my mind with any faith system.
A man/ woman who change 's his/her birth religion to another religion is
a fake and does not value his/her morals, culture and values in life.

Happy Women's Day

આજે 8મી માર્ચ... International Women's Day એટલે કે મહિલા દિન.

ઘણા લોકોના મનમાં એવો વિચાર આવે છે કે મહિલાઓ માટે શા માટે એક વિશિષ્ટ દિન રાખવો પડે છે? મને પણ પહેલા આવા વિચારો આવતા હતા, પણ પછી મને થયું કે મહિલાઓને એક વિશિષ્ટ દિવસ ની ખરેખર જરૂરત છે.

હવે લોકોને થશે કે એક બાજુ હું કહું છું કે સ્ત્રી-પુરુષ બંને સમાન છે, તો પછી હું કેમ women's dayની તરફેણમાં છું. તો આ રહ્યા એના કારણો:

1. આ દુનિયામાં તમામની જીન્દગી એક સ્ત્રીનેજ આભારી છે.
2. આ દુનિયાના તમામ પુરુષોને પ્રોપર ડ્રેસિંગ સેન્સ આપનાર એક સ્ત્રી છે
3. સહુની જીન્દગી સ્ત્રીને ફરતે જ હોય છે.
4. સ્ત્રીની જીન્દગી ઘરના તમામ સદસ્યને ફરતે ગોળ-ગોળ ફરતી હોય છે.

તો પછી એક એવી વ્યક્તિને, જે તમારી પસંદ-નાપસંદનું ધ્યાન રાખતી હોય, તમારી તમામ જરૂરિયાત પૂરી કરતી હોય એવી વ્યક્તિને આદરની નજરોથી જોવાથી તમે કંઈ નાના નથી થઇ જવાના.

લોકો ભલે આજે એમ કહેતા હોય કે હવે તો આજ-કાલની સ્ત્રીઓ ઘરની બહાર નીકળીને,ઓફિસોમાં કામ કરતી થઇ છે. પણ શું એમ કરવાથી એમની જવાબદારીમાં ઘટાડો થયો છે? જો સ્ત્રી ઘર અને બહાર બંને જગ્યા એ કામ કરી શક્તિ હોય, અને તમે પુરુષ બનીને ઓફીસ-અવર્સ છોડીને બાકીનો સમય પત્ની,બહેન કે માતાને ઓર્ડર આપીને જ કામ ચલાવતા હોવ તો એમાં તમે સન્માનને પાત્ર નથી બની જતા.

ઘણાને થશે કે સ્ત્રીઓ એવું તે કેટલું સહન કરી લેતી હોય છે કે તેઓ સન્માનને પાત્ર બની જાય છે. તો એના જવાબમાં, ખાલી એક વાર તમારા જીવનની એક મહત્વપૂર્ણ સ્ત્રીને પ્રેમ કરો, અને ફક્ત વિચારો કે એ તમને બદલામાં એટલો જ પ્રેમ નાં કરતી હોત તો? બસ એ જવાબ તરીકે ઉદ્ભવતી ફીલિંગ્સ તો રોજબરોજની ઘટના છે.

કોઈપણ જાતના બદલાની અપેક્ષા વગર સતત બધાને પ્રેમ કરતા રહેવું તેનું નામ સ્ત્રી, અને આ જ અપેક્ષારહિત જીવનને સલામ કરવા માટે જરૂરી છે મહિલા દિનની ઉજવણી. કેમકે, "यत्र नार्यस्तु पूजयन्ते, रमन्ते तत्र देवता:"

કૃષ્ણાયન

તમે કોઈને સામાન્ય ઓળખતા હોવ અને તેના વિષે વધુ જાણવાની ઈચ્છા થાય, અને એના પરિણામે જે sources મેળવો એમાંથી તમને એ વ્યક્તિ વિષે, એના વ્યક્તિત્વ વિષે સંપૂર્ણ જાણકારી મળી જાય તો કેવું લાગે? કૃષ્ણાયન આવો જ એક અનુભવ છે....


કૃષ્ણ...હિંદુ સમાજમાં,ખાસ કરીને ગુજરાતમાં ભાગ્યેજ કોઈક એવું હશે જેને નાનપણમાં રાધા-કૃષ્ણની વાર્તા, કૃષ્ણની લીલા વગેરે વિષે ના વાંચ્યું હોય. અને જેમ જેમ મોટા થતા જઈએ તેમ તેમ આ અંગેની અનેક બીજી વાર્તાઓ, કૃષ્ણના વિવિધ સ્વરૂપથી પરિચિત થતા જઈએ છીએ, અને તેથી જ કૃષ્ણ એક એવા પુરુષ તરીકે સામે આવે છે જેમનું જીવન કદાચ આજના જમાનાને અનુરૂપ હોય. આજથી ૫,૦૦૦ વર્ષ પહેલા, આજના જેવું જીવન જીવેલી વ્યક્તિને અંદરથી ઝાંખવાની ઈચ્છા સ્વાભાવિક રીતે થઇ જ જાય, અને પરિણામે એક શોધખોળ શરૂ થાય છે,આજથી લગભગ આઠ મહિના પહેલા. ઘણા બધા પુસ્તકો, બ્લોગ અને ચર્ચાઓ પછી અંતે એક નામે સામે આવે છે, “કૃષ્ણાયન-માનવ થઈને જીવેલા ઈશ્વરની વાત”


કૃષ્ણાયન આમ તો એક નવલકથા છે, પુસ્તકના સંવાદો કાલ્પનિક છે, પરંતુ પાત્રો વાસ્તવિક છે... કૃષ્ણ, રાધા, રુક્મિણી,દ્રૌપદી, સત્યભામા, અર્જુન,કર્ણ... દરેક પાત્રો અને એ દરેકનું વ્યકિતત્વ અને એ દરેક વ્યક્તિ સાથે કૃષ્ણનું સમન્વય જાણે આપણી પોતાની જ વાત લાગે...


આમ જોઈએ તો દરેક વ્યક્તિના જીવનમાં અમુક એવા સંબંધો હોય છે જેમાં એક વ્યક્તિ કૃષ્ણ નો રોલ નિભાવતી હોય અને પરિણામે અન્ય વ્યક્તિ એ કૃષ્ણની પ્રેમિકા, અર્ધાંગિની, પ્રેયસી, સખી કે મિત્ર હોય છે... અને આ બધાને પૂરતો ન્યાય આપવામાં, કૃષ્ણ પોતાનાથી જ દૂર જતા જાય છે... અને એટલે જ અંતિમ સમયે, આ બધા સંબંધો કૃષ્ણને બાંધી રાખે છે.


સામાન્ય માન્યતાઓ પ્રમાણે લોકોને લાગશે કે આ પુસ્તકમાં નરી ફિલોસોફી હશે... કૃષ્ણને લગતી અન્ય બોક્સની જેમ જ... પરંતુ ના.... આ પુસ્તકમાં તમને તમારા સાચા કૃષ્ણ મળશે,જે તમારી સાથે તમારા study table પર કે મોર્નીંગ કોફી સાથે તમારા ડાયનિંગ ટેબલ પર તમારી સાથે હશે, તમને એમના પોતાના જીવનમાંથી બોધ આપશે, પણ કોઈ ફિલોસોફીની જેમ નહિ, પરંતુ વાર્તા ની જેમ....અને જે સૌથી વધુ જાણવા મળશે તે હશે સ્ત્રી-પુરુષની માનસિકતા અને કેવી પરિસ્થિતિમાં કોણ કેવું વર્તન કરશે તેનું નિરાકરણ અને સૌથી મહત્વનો સંદેશ....

"પ્રેમ નો અર્થ પત્નીત્વ કે પતિત્વ નથી.... લગ્ન એ પ્રેમનું પરિણામ નથી....પ્રેમ એટલે એક આકાશ નીચે ઉભા રહીને એ આકાશ તરફ જોઈને પ્રિય પત્રના સ્મિતની કલ્પના કરવી"

On birth of “someone” special:

Few months back, when I was on my vacation, I got a call from my friend. Although it was a kind of offer for me, it was more of an idea. Story goes like this:



In May 2010, an eMagazine, issued by a Gujarati Orkut community, published an article written by my close friend Bhumika. And this beautiful article ignited a spark in Vishal’s mind. As a result, we all “conceived” this beautiful idea of an e-magazine. It would be a magazine where a person could freely express his/her idea on a subject of their choosing. Language no bar.



But a child does not enter this world without mother going through labour pains. Similarly there were lots of problems attached with birth of this magazine. To start with, first we couldn’t think about how to “motivate” the whole Writer Brigade, when we gathered people to write, we couldn’t decide the name of the magazine, date of publishing first issue, etc. Finally, when everything was decided, it was the time for us “pioneers” to face our bunch of problems in our personal life. Due to various reasons, this idea was as good as dead.



At end of 6 months of labour pain, we are finally here, ready to welcome fruit of our labours to this world, after all these hustle bustle n hullabaloo.



So, our most beloved baby, COLLAGE is coming to this world, with its first issue. And I’m feeling extremely happy for this…..



And for you all, please check http://collage19.wordpress.com. This blog will be home for Collage for some time to come.





P.S.: I know, you all might feel that how can one post such *bullshit* on their blog, but these are my feelings and I am trying to give words to them

Life partner v/s Spouse

Last night I was chatting with a friend of mine thru texts and the track turned on this topic. So the question was what kind of girl guys prefer as their life partner? Someone who’s a “brain girl” or someone who’s a “doll girl”.



Same question I asked to my other male friends… All of them replied different attributes for their life partner. Some said, she should be beautiful with good nature, some said someone who can understand individuality. Some wanted emotionally intelligent partner, some were ready to negotiate for beauty or brain, if the girl has good amount of either.



But then my mind got one more question. That was, do people always get what they want? As in, is the person you are married to; has the same quality as you’d dreamt about?



Looking at the lives of some of my married friends, I would say it is not so all the time. Some of my friends have really got what they’d dreamt about, but few said that for them, life partner and spouse have been two different things. If given a choice they’d prefer to go with their “life partners” rather than their “spouse”
But isn’t it like we have to accept whoever is “written” in our destiny (I don’t know what kinda invisible ink they use, coz I need that ink for my exams :P )?
I can’t understand, why people get all ready to leave what they want to or what they’ve always dreamt about just for the sake of a “sanskriti”, which doesn’t allow you to go for your “life-partner”?




I don’t know what’s going on in my mind right now… but one thing is for sure, we all are a big bunch of “hypocrites”








(P.S. : guys… ‘m shocked, none of you said that she should be SEXY)