Last night I was chatting with a friend of mine thru texts and the track turned on this topic. So the question was what kind of girl guys prefer as their life partner? Someone who’s a “brain girl” or someone who’s a “doll girl”.
Same question I asked to my other male friends… All of them replied different attributes for their life partner. Some said, she should be beautiful with good nature, some said someone who can understand individuality. Some wanted emotionally intelligent partner, some were ready to negotiate for beauty or brain, if the girl has good amount of either.
But then my mind got one more question. That was, do people always get what they want? As in, is the person you are married to; has the same quality as you’d dreamt about?
Looking at the lives of some of my married friends, I would say it is not so all the time. Some of my friends have really got what they’d dreamt about, but few said that for them, life partner and spouse have been two different things. If given a choice they’d prefer to go with their “life partners” rather than their “spouse”
But isn’t it like we have to accept whoever is “written” in our destiny (I don’t know what kinda invisible ink they use, coz I need that ink for my exams :P )?
I can’t understand, why people get all ready to leave what they want to or what they’ve always dreamt about just for the sake of a “sanskriti”, which doesn’t allow you to go for your “life-partner”?
I don’t know what’s going on in my mind right now… but one thing is for sure, we all are a big bunch of “hypocrites”
(P.S. : guys… ‘m shocked, none of you said that she should be SEXY)
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Marriages and Indian Mindset
હમણાં જ એક અઠવાડિયાથી પણ ઓછા સમયગાળામાં મેં બે ડાયલોગ્સ સાંભળ્યા:
Dialog 1:
“ના બાપા!!!! તમે લોકો તો તમારા ફિલ્ડના જ પાર્ટનર્સ શોધજો, પછી અમારી પસંદ જોડે એડજસ્ટમેન્ટ ના થાય તો અમારે પાછલી ઉમરે ખોટું સાંભળવું નથી”
“એ વાત તો બરાબર પણ યાર મમ્મા, મને અત્યારે ત્રણ-ચાર છોકરાઓ ગમે છે, એમાંથી ફાઈનલ કરવામાં તો મદદ કરજે, પ્લીઝ”
“ઓકે, એ વખતની વાત એ વખતે, પણ હા, અમે તારા માટે છોકરો નથી શોધવાના એ વાત નક્કી જ છે”
Dialog 2:
“મમ્મી, મને XYZ ગમે છે, તો હું કોઈ બીજી છોકરી જોડે શું કરવા લગ્ન કરું?”
“એટલા માટે કે એ છોકરી આપણી નાતની નથી, બીજી નાતની- બીજા કલ્ચરની છે”
“પણ એનાથી શું ફરક પડે છે??? અને આવી રીતે જોર-જબરદસ્તીથી કોઈપણ અજાણી છોકરી જોડે હું કઈ રીતે marriage કરું?? અમે બે આજ પહેલા મળ્યા પણ નથી, અને આવી રીતે અડધા-પોણા કલાકમાં કોઈ ને મળીને હું કઈ રીતે નક્કી કરી શકું?”
“કેમ એમાં શું છે? મેં અને તારા પપ્પા એ પણ એ જ રીતે લગ્ન કરેલા છે, તો તને શું વાંધો છે?”
“.....”
“...”
& it goes on and on and on... જ્યાં સુધી “બકરો” શહીદ ના થઇ જાય....
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આખી દુનિયામાં ભારત જ એક એવો દેશ છે જેમાં લોકો પોતાની લાઈફ અને વાઈફ (or હસબન્ડ) માટે પોતાના માતા-પિતાને આશરે રહે છે અને એવું પણ નથી કે એ લોકો પ્રેમમાં કે લવ-મેરેજમાં વિશ્વાસ નથી કરતા, કેમકે આજે જ્યાં ટીનએજની શરૂઆત થતા પહેલા પ્યુબર્ટી આવી જતી હોય ત્યાં ઓપોઝીટ સેક્સ તરફ એટ્રેક્શન/લવ ના થાય એ શક્ય નથી.
આ દેશમાં લોકોનું દિલ બદલાવ ઈચ્છે છે, પણ મગજ કહે છે કે આપણે જે રીતે વર્ષોથી જીવ્યા છે એમાં કંઈ ખાસ ફેરફાર ના થવો જોઈએ અને એટલે જ આજે આપણે ટેકનીકલી આગળ વધ્યા તો છીએ પણ એક રીતે જોઈએ તો હજી પણ બારમી સદીમાં જ છીએ.
આજનો યુવક બધું જ ફાસ્ટ ઈચ્છે છે, પોતાની ઈચ્છા પ્રમાણે જીવવા ઈચ્છે છે. અને એને કોઈ બાંધે એ એને પસંદ નથી પડતું, પછી એ એની કરીઅર હોય કે લાઈફ.
હવે અહિયાં સૌથી મોટો પ્રોબ્લેમ ત્યારે થાય છે જયારે લાઈફ પાર્ટનર નો સવાલ આવે છે. છોકરા/છોકરી ને પોતાની પસંદ જોડે પરણવું હોય છે અને મા-બાપ ને એ લોકોની પસંદ જોડે પરણાવવા હોય છે. આમાં થી ઊભો થાય સંઘર્ષ અને એનું અંતિમ રીઝલ્ટ ક્યાં તો પેરેન્ટ્સનો કાયમી ગુસ્સો આવે ક્યાં તો લાઈફ ( અને વાઈફ પણ) જોડે કરવામાં આવતી એક પ્રકારની સમજુતી, જે થોડા સમય પછી પાર્ટનર જોડે ના ઝગડામાં પરિણમે.
એનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ મેરેજમાં ઝગડા ના થાય, પણ એટલીસ્ટ એક વાતની શ્યોરિટી લવ-મેરેજમાં રહે કે, તમે ગમે તેટલું ઝગડો અંતે તો તમે ફરીને એ જ વ્યક્તિને પામવા ઈચ્છો, કારણકે એ તમારી પોતાની પસંદ છે અને તમે કોઈને જો ખરેખર ચાહતા હોવ તો ગમે તેટલા રુસણા પછી મનામણાં આપમેળે થઇ જતા હોય છે.
લોકો માને છે કે લવ-મેરેજનું અંતિમ પરિણામ છૂટાછેડા જ આવે છે, પણ હું એવા કપલ્સને પણ ઓળખું છું જેમણે સમાજ(મતલબ કે ઘરવાળા)ની વિરૂદ્ધમાં જઈને લગ્ન કર્યા હોય (ઓફકોર્સ લવ મેરેજ) અને ચાર-ચાર દાયકા સુધી સાથે રહ્યા હોય.
આમ જુઓ તો મેરેજ એક ઉત્સવ છે, It’s celebration of Love. દુનિયામાં કશે પણ-ભારતને છોડીને- આમ અરેન્જ મેરેજ અને લવ મેરેજ એમ ભાગ નથી પાડવામાં આવતા. ખાલી ભારતમાં જ આ મહાન ઉત્સવમાં જે લોકોને પરણવાનું હોય છે એ લોકોની મરજી નથી જોવામાં આવતી.
આ આખી ચર્ચાનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ-મેરેજ એક સ્વપ્ન સમાન બાબત છે. હવે આજના પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ બદલાઈ રહ્યા છે, પહેલી ઘટનામાં જોયા એવા પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ છે, પરંતુ બહુ જ ઓછી સંખ્યામાં. મેજોરિટી સમાજ બીજી ઘટનાના પેરેન્ટ જેવો છે. સંતાનના સુખ ખાતર કંઈપણ કરવા તૈયાર મા-બાપ એ લગ્નની બાબતમાં પણ એ લોકોનું સુખ જોવાની જરૂર છે, નહિ તો “બકરા” શહીદ થયા કરશે..
Dialog 1:
“ના બાપા!!!! તમે લોકો તો તમારા ફિલ્ડના જ પાર્ટનર્સ શોધજો, પછી અમારી પસંદ જોડે એડજસ્ટમેન્ટ ના થાય તો અમારે પાછલી ઉમરે ખોટું સાંભળવું નથી”
“એ વાત તો બરાબર પણ યાર મમ્મા, મને અત્યારે ત્રણ-ચાર છોકરાઓ ગમે છે, એમાંથી ફાઈનલ કરવામાં તો મદદ કરજે, પ્લીઝ”
“ઓકે, એ વખતની વાત એ વખતે, પણ હા, અમે તારા માટે છોકરો નથી શોધવાના એ વાત નક્કી જ છે”
Dialog 2:
“મમ્મી, મને XYZ ગમે છે, તો હું કોઈ બીજી છોકરી જોડે શું કરવા લગ્ન કરું?”
“એટલા માટે કે એ છોકરી આપણી નાતની નથી, બીજી નાતની- બીજા કલ્ચરની છે”
“પણ એનાથી શું ફરક પડે છે??? અને આવી રીતે જોર-જબરદસ્તીથી કોઈપણ અજાણી છોકરી જોડે હું કઈ રીતે marriage કરું?? અમે બે આજ પહેલા મળ્યા પણ નથી, અને આવી રીતે અડધા-પોણા કલાકમાં કોઈ ને મળીને હું કઈ રીતે નક્કી કરી શકું?”
“કેમ એમાં શું છે? મેં અને તારા પપ્પા એ પણ એ જ રીતે લગ્ન કરેલા છે, તો તને શું વાંધો છે?”
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“...”
& it goes on and on and on... જ્યાં સુધી “બકરો” શહીદ ના થઇ જાય....
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આખી દુનિયામાં ભારત જ એક એવો દેશ છે જેમાં લોકો પોતાની લાઈફ અને વાઈફ (or હસબન્ડ) માટે પોતાના માતા-પિતાને આશરે રહે છે અને એવું પણ નથી કે એ લોકો પ્રેમમાં કે લવ-મેરેજમાં વિશ્વાસ નથી કરતા, કેમકે આજે જ્યાં ટીનએજની શરૂઆત થતા પહેલા પ્યુબર્ટી આવી જતી હોય ત્યાં ઓપોઝીટ સેક્સ તરફ એટ્રેક્શન/લવ ના થાય એ શક્ય નથી.
આ દેશમાં લોકોનું દિલ બદલાવ ઈચ્છે છે, પણ મગજ કહે છે કે આપણે જે રીતે વર્ષોથી જીવ્યા છે એમાં કંઈ ખાસ ફેરફાર ના થવો જોઈએ અને એટલે જ આજે આપણે ટેકનીકલી આગળ વધ્યા તો છીએ પણ એક રીતે જોઈએ તો હજી પણ બારમી સદીમાં જ છીએ.
આજનો યુવક બધું જ ફાસ્ટ ઈચ્છે છે, પોતાની ઈચ્છા પ્રમાણે જીવવા ઈચ્છે છે. અને એને કોઈ બાંધે એ એને પસંદ નથી પડતું, પછી એ એની કરીઅર હોય કે લાઈફ.
હવે અહિયાં સૌથી મોટો પ્રોબ્લેમ ત્યારે થાય છે જયારે લાઈફ પાર્ટનર નો સવાલ આવે છે. છોકરા/છોકરી ને પોતાની પસંદ જોડે પરણવું હોય છે અને મા-બાપ ને એ લોકોની પસંદ જોડે પરણાવવા હોય છે. આમાં થી ઊભો થાય સંઘર્ષ અને એનું અંતિમ રીઝલ્ટ ક્યાં તો પેરેન્ટ્સનો કાયમી ગુસ્સો આવે ક્યાં તો લાઈફ ( અને વાઈફ પણ) જોડે કરવામાં આવતી એક પ્રકારની સમજુતી, જે થોડા સમય પછી પાર્ટનર જોડે ના ઝગડામાં પરિણમે.
એનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ મેરેજમાં ઝગડા ના થાય, પણ એટલીસ્ટ એક વાતની શ્યોરિટી લવ-મેરેજમાં રહે કે, તમે ગમે તેટલું ઝગડો અંતે તો તમે ફરીને એ જ વ્યક્તિને પામવા ઈચ્છો, કારણકે એ તમારી પોતાની પસંદ છે અને તમે કોઈને જો ખરેખર ચાહતા હોવ તો ગમે તેટલા રુસણા પછી મનામણાં આપમેળે થઇ જતા હોય છે.
લોકો માને છે કે લવ-મેરેજનું અંતિમ પરિણામ છૂટાછેડા જ આવે છે, પણ હું એવા કપલ્સને પણ ઓળખું છું જેમણે સમાજ(મતલબ કે ઘરવાળા)ની વિરૂદ્ધમાં જઈને લગ્ન કર્યા હોય (ઓફકોર્સ લવ મેરેજ) અને ચાર-ચાર દાયકા સુધી સાથે રહ્યા હોય.
આમ જુઓ તો મેરેજ એક ઉત્સવ છે, It’s celebration of Love. દુનિયામાં કશે પણ-ભારતને છોડીને- આમ અરેન્જ મેરેજ અને લવ મેરેજ એમ ભાગ નથી પાડવામાં આવતા. ખાલી ભારતમાં જ આ મહાન ઉત્સવમાં જે લોકોને પરણવાનું હોય છે એ લોકોની મરજી નથી જોવામાં આવતી.
આ આખી ચર્ચાનો મતલબ એમ પણ નથી કે લવ-મેરેજ એક સ્વપ્ન સમાન બાબત છે. હવે આજના પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ બદલાઈ રહ્યા છે, પહેલી ઘટનામાં જોયા એવા પેરેન્ટ્સ પણ છે, પરંતુ બહુ જ ઓછી સંખ્યામાં. મેજોરિટી સમાજ બીજી ઘટનાના પેરેન્ટ જેવો છે. સંતાનના સુખ ખાતર કંઈપણ કરવા તૈયાર મા-બાપ એ લગ્નની બાબતમાં પણ એ લોકોનું સુખ જોવાની જરૂર છે, નહિ તો “બકરા” શહીદ થયા કરશે..
Thursday, August 19, 2010
THIS HAPPENED TO ME
This incident happened to me today as well as yesterday (today I had FUN though)....
It happened like this...
While having lunch, my landline phone rang up, and I picked up...
"Hello.."
"Hello mam, Can I speak to Mr. Siddhartha Desai?"
"May I know who's speaking? (Does this stupid not even know that grandpa is passed away 2 years back?)"
"Mam, this is XYZ(I've forgot his name) from State Bank of India"
"Sure, Can u please tell me in what matter you want to speak to him? (This is gonna be fun now..hahaha...)"
"Mam, It is a confidential matter"
"Yes, I am sure it is, but since I am his financial advisor, he anyway going to tell me this (Ghanta... FINACIAL ADVISOR)"
"No mam, we have to speak to him"
"OK, can you please tell him what data do you have about him?"
"SORRY?!?"
"You have called up to talk to a person, then you must be having data regarding him na? Can you please tell me what data you have, so I can give you some additional info?"
"What info mam?"
"That... he passed away 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
(Must have not heard properly) "HE PASSED AWAY 2 YEARS BACK"
"Didn't get you mam"
"(you idiot..... grrr....) He expired 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
"(Ahaa... this is fun...) He's shifted to somewhere else.."
"Oh..OK... mam, Can you give me his contact number?"
"I afraid I can't, that place has no telecom service yet, but I can give you his postal address"
"Oh sure mam, please give me his postal address"
"write down please, it is, 206, Heaven Apartment.."
"Yes mam.."
"Next to Hell Colony..."
"OK..."
"Cloud's way.."
"hmm..."
"GOD's country...(God help me...)"
"umm.. can u hold on for a moment??"
"Sure..."
"Mam... who's handling his business now?"
"(Who idiot now told him that grandpa had a business) What business?!?"
"His business mam... He must be having some business na?!?"
"Who told you that???? He never had any business..."
"Oh sorry mam... I am really sorry"
...and cut down the Phone
(P.S.: The aim to write down all these is to give you all a li'l laughter (probably) and to aware that SBI has started 'SPAMMING' on phone now... just like Club Mahindra used to do few years back... like... 'u've won free trip' etc.
It happened like this...
While having lunch, my landline phone rang up, and I picked up...
"Hello.."
"Hello mam, Can I speak to Mr. Siddhartha Desai?"
"May I know who's speaking? (Does this stupid not even know that grandpa is passed away 2 years back?)"
"Mam, this is XYZ(I've forgot his name) from State Bank of India"
"Sure, Can u please tell me in what matter you want to speak to him? (This is gonna be fun now..hahaha...)"
"Mam, It is a confidential matter"
"Yes, I am sure it is, but since I am his financial advisor, he anyway going to tell me this (Ghanta... FINACIAL ADVISOR)"
"No mam, we have to speak to him"
"OK, can you please tell him what data do you have about him?"
"SORRY?!?"
"You have called up to talk to a person, then you must be having data regarding him na? Can you please tell me what data you have, so I can give you some additional info?"
"What info mam?"
"That... he passed away 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
(Must have not heard properly) "HE PASSED AWAY 2 YEARS BACK"
"Didn't get you mam"
"(you idiot..... grrr....) He expired 2 years back"
"Sorry mam?!?"
"(Ahaa... this is fun...) He's shifted to somewhere else.."
"Oh..OK... mam, Can you give me his contact number?"
"I afraid I can't, that place has no telecom service yet, but I can give you his postal address"
"Oh sure mam, please give me his postal address"
"write down please, it is, 206, Heaven Apartment.."
"Yes mam.."
"Next to Hell Colony..."
"OK..."
"Cloud's way.."
"hmm..."
"GOD's country...(God help me...)"
"umm.. can u hold on for a moment??"
"Sure..."
"Mam... who's handling his business now?"
"(Who idiot now told him that grandpa had a business) What business?!?"
"His business mam... He must be having some business na?!?"
"Who told you that???? He never had any business..."
"Oh sorry mam... I am really sorry"
...and cut down the Phone
(P.S.: The aim to write down all these is to give you all a li'l laughter (probably) and to aware that SBI has started 'SPAMMING' on phone now... just like Club Mahindra used to do few years back... like... 'u've won free trip' etc.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
Friendship means...
Hmmm... 1st Sunday of August... Entire world celebrates FRIENDSHIP'S DAY... A day specially dedicated to friends... N just because of that people start singing songs of friendship n write long n long articles/blogposts on friends n friendship... But none of them describes what friendhip is to me... n how can they do so?? It's my feeling... So lemme tell you what friendship means to me...
For me, Friendship has many meanings. Some of them are common, some uncommon... But one thing is for sure... My meaning of friendship changes from person to person....
My friends are my life and all of you are close to my heart... but stilll I have different meaning of friendship with all of you n also for all of you, my importance is different...
I have a Jay-Veeru kind of friendship too and also Veeru-Basanti kind of friendship (not exact that kinda friendship, but since 'm a gal I'm calling myself Basanti)
Friendship to me is helping out that closest person from the toughest problem, like marking proxy in attendence... Friendship also means asking to mark MY attendence to that closest friend
Friendship means... when you are having Maparesir's class test n telling the person next to you.. "yaar konsi manhus ghadi me .net liya tha" and then writing the answers with that person... li'l from ur knowledge n li'l from his/her knowledge n passing out internals of .net with average marks (Maparesir hai yaar... aur kitne aayenge... :P )
Friendship means... bunking Revdiwala's lecture n being the only person in Parikhsir's lec, by sending the rest of class to cantten (n then joining them, exactly after 3 mins ;) )
Friendship means... Exchaning readings in Physics n Chemistry practicals...
Friendship means... Having Dabba Ujani when someone from "Devils' Zone" forgets the lunch box
Friendship means... "Can I have a sip of water from your water bottle?"
Friendship means... "Night outs at Aneri's place and never-ending gossips from school time till today"
Friendship means... "Joining guitar class because you think your friend will attend it regularly because of you, n then both of u bunking the class"
Friendship mean... "Marrying your best friend on Facebook... Even though you r straight n that fake mariage makes you gay"
Friendship means... "Being a shoulder for that person when someone real close to your friend is not well"
Friendship means... "Seeking help from someone-who's not your parents, when you are at a confusing point in your relationship"
Friendship means... "Giving a tightttttt hug (on phone) at midnight, when someone close has had a break up"
Friendship means... "1st Sunday of August.. 4 close friends... having coffee+snacks at CCD... n at the end fighting for paying bill"
Friendship means... "saying 'YES' to be a back-up spouse to ur closest pal"
Friendship means... "Letting go your crush for someone you care more about"
Friendship means... "Having a chicken sub n not being caught by Superitendent of Hostel"
Friendship means... all of these n much more...
Thanx people... for coming in my life n touching my heart... Muah
For me, Friendship has many meanings. Some of them are common, some uncommon... But one thing is for sure... My meaning of friendship changes from person to person....
My friends are my life and all of you are close to my heart... but stilll I have different meaning of friendship with all of you n also for all of you, my importance is different...
I have a Jay-Veeru kind of friendship too and also Veeru-Basanti kind of friendship (not exact that kinda friendship, but since 'm a gal I'm calling myself Basanti)
Friendship to me is helping out that closest person from the toughest problem, like marking proxy in attendence... Friendship also means asking to mark MY attendence to that closest friend
Friendship means... when you are having Maparesir's class test n telling the person next to you.. "yaar konsi manhus ghadi me .net liya tha" and then writing the answers with that person... li'l from ur knowledge n li'l from his/her knowledge n passing out internals of .net with average marks (Maparesir hai yaar... aur kitne aayenge... :P )
Friendship means... bunking Revdiwala's lecture n being the only person in Parikhsir's lec, by sending the rest of class to cantten (n then joining them, exactly after 3 mins ;) )
Friendship means... Exchaning readings in Physics n Chemistry practicals...
Friendship means... Having Dabba Ujani when someone from "Devils' Zone" forgets the lunch box
Friendship means... "Can I have a sip of water from your water bottle?"
Friendship means... "Night outs at Aneri's place and never-ending gossips from school time till today"
Friendship means... "Joining guitar class because you think your friend will attend it regularly because of you, n then both of u bunking the class"
Friendship mean... "Marrying your best friend on Facebook... Even though you r straight n that fake mariage makes you gay"
Friendship means... "Being a shoulder for that person when someone real close to your friend is not well"
Friendship means... "Seeking help from someone-who's not your parents, when you are at a confusing point in your relationship"
Friendship means... "Giving a tightttttt hug (on phone) at midnight, when someone close has had a break up"
Friendship means... "1st Sunday of August.. 4 close friends... having coffee+snacks at CCD... n at the end fighting for paying bill"
Friendship means... "saying 'YES' to be a back-up spouse to ur closest pal"
Friendship means... "Letting go your crush for someone you care more about"
Friendship means... "Having a chicken sub n not being caught by Superitendent of Hostel"
Friendship means... all of these n much more...
Thanx people... for coming in my life n touching my heart... Muah
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Just for a change...
Last night, me and my best friend from school were chatting on phone... and we "discussed" an amazing topic. Though it was less of discussion and more of a real sarcasm.
I am gonna share that "scene" with u guys.... just to give u a good laugh, for a change ;)
[we are in middle of our usual weekly "gossip" on which school friend is doing what nowadays and who got laid etc and all of a sudden my friend (for u we'll call her AD) started this....]
AD: hey babes... u know... x's GF took admission in IGNOU for MBA
me: who? y? but why would she do so?? I mean x is cool with all those career oriented thing na? what's wrong then?
AD: c'mon girl... he's "cool"... when it comes about "ghar ki laxmi" they all are same.
me: seriously girl... I guess for GF they want a career oriented girl, but not for wife yaar... why why why????
AD: f**k off that thing yaar... you know they take entrance test for IGNOU.
me: (in serious tone)really???
AD: yeah... they ask u... the nailpolish u've applied is of what company?? and then they give you four options
me: and what about specialization????
AD: that would be like culinary skills, household skills, Operation Management and Disaster Management.
me: oh yea that's awesome...
[...and we both burst into a really laughter shower ]
[after a while]
AD: u know what kind of logical reasoning do they ask?
me: k what would you do if ur husband's income is 5k n your monthly expense is 6k? How would you save money?
AD: nice one babes... you r learning...
me: (while laughing) thanx babes...
[after our "all 3 floors get disturbed" laughter... I asked]
me: do u know why people go for girl like her, and not like us?
AD: why?
me: because.... they know that... girls like us would reply that expense question like... Don't worry about that 1k dude.. I'll start working and by that we can save 4k each month.
AD: hahaha... true babes... n that would hurt their "male ego". n anyways with your degree from Symbiosis, you would definitely kick his ass
me: yeah... n then comes the future scene...
AD: what future scene?
me: see... after a few years I would start earning more money... So I would then tell him to leave his job... and he would start doing all household thingie.. n since his current earning is just 5k, he would not have that much education qualification, so being a home manager would be better for him...
AD: then u'll start ordering him.. like A.. make coffee for me, why dinner is not ready yet.. etc etc
me: on dinner thing, he'd say, sorry darling, but I was busy with this xyz serial, they'd a special episode today.
AD: yeah.... n then u'd say, ohhh... u and ur serials...
me: LOL... still biggie... what if he'd miss an episode, n of course, he'd blame me for that, k since u wanted me to make dinner ready by this time, I missed today's episode. Now I have to watch it at night...
AD: babes... that'd affect your life only...
[giggle.. giggle...]
me: this way... there'd come a time, when people know him as AK's husband...
AD: yeah babes... n may be he'd take ur surname as his...
me: but still... why x would go for a girl like y and not a girl like us..
AD: c'mon babes... his love is arranged...
me: WTH!!!!!!!!
AD: yea... I just come to know... It's all for his business and all...
me: cool... but still... question remains the same... why an IGNOU MBA??? If he wants an MBA, he could have gone for some girl from a normal college, even H.L. MBA is good yaar.
AD: may be, his mom wanna say in front of her "kitty party" group, that she got an MBA bahu..
me: whatever yaar... this sucks...
[...and I changed the topic... but still I can't understand this "double standards"]
[P.S.:
1) being a home maker is a good thing, I know, but being JUST a home maker not gonna work yaar... I mean, it doesn't make any kind of sense in today's world.
2) this one is just for a little fun at our side, and thought I should share it. No intension to make fun of anyone out there
]
Monday, June 28, 2010
Relationship that has no name
There are some relations which are damn difficult to understand. You sometimes don’t know what name you are supposed to give to that relationship… Is it just friendship??? Or is it Love??? You’d say that such relations are called best-friends… but there is a relationship, which is beyond the category of ‘best-friends’ and does not fall under the category of “love”.
There is no such name for this feeling… You’d feel that person so close to your heart and life that you’d just can’t live without that person. And this thing becomes complicated when one of you is married. Because you know that your spouse not going to understand this relationship and you also know that the other person is really important to you and it becomes worse when your spouse start thinking that the other person is creating problems in your marriage life.
And this thing is difficult for that other person too. S/he just wants to be that friend who never breach trust of his/her “best friend”, but sometimes that friend begins to think that s/he is a disturbance in his/her life. It’s just not the way s/he wants to treat his/her single friend, but it’s something natural to happen.
I don’t know much about this relationship world but I too have such relationships… Both with some of my female friends as well as my male friends. A relationship which doesn’t have any name for the people out there, but we know that we r sharing this “something special” relationship. May be our “friendship” is not acceptable for society, especially Indian society. Some think that I am gay, because I am just too close to that girl, n I love her like my kid sis (though people won’t notice that). Same way with my male friends. Okey, I am too friendly, but not like him in that sense that I would come between his serious commitments and family relationship.
I sometimes really don’t understand whom to blame for this. Can a girl-who probably would take active participation in some “Purush samovadi andolan”- be so narrow-minded that she’d just simply start building up a negative impression for that girl because of whom her husband is emotionally alive???? I seriously don’t know what to do with this type of relationship, which is a damn normal thing in today’s “cyber” world and with our Gen-X…
Anyways… My part of “Monsoon” has begun already… So ‘m enjoying “rimzim bearish”… All the best people… For both monsoon and this out-of-way kinda relationship ;)
There is no such name for this feeling… You’d feel that person so close to your heart and life that you’d just can’t live without that person. And this thing becomes complicated when one of you is married. Because you know that your spouse not going to understand this relationship and you also know that the other person is really important to you and it becomes worse when your spouse start thinking that the other person is creating problems in your marriage life.
And this thing is difficult for that other person too. S/he just wants to be that friend who never breach trust of his/her “best friend”, but sometimes that friend begins to think that s/he is a disturbance in his/her life. It’s just not the way s/he wants to treat his/her single friend, but it’s something natural to happen.
I don’t know much about this relationship world but I too have such relationships… Both with some of my female friends as well as my male friends. A relationship which doesn’t have any name for the people out there, but we know that we r sharing this “something special” relationship. May be our “friendship” is not acceptable for society, especially Indian society. Some think that I am gay, because I am just too close to that girl, n I love her like my kid sis (though people won’t notice that). Same way with my male friends. Okey, I am too friendly, but not like him in that sense that I would come between his serious commitments and family relationship.
I sometimes really don’t understand whom to blame for this. Can a girl-who probably would take active participation in some “Purush samovadi andolan”- be so narrow-minded that she’d just simply start building up a negative impression for that girl because of whom her husband is emotionally alive???? I seriously don’t know what to do with this type of relationship, which is a damn normal thing in today’s “cyber” world and with our Gen-X…
Anyways… My part of “Monsoon” has begun already… So ‘m enjoying “rimzim bearish”… All the best people… For both monsoon and this out-of-way kinda relationship ;)
Monday, June 14, 2010
First Rain of the Season
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Monsoon has begun in India and so are the various songs on rains, ranging from classic oldie bollywood songs to regional songs. And with this rainy season, stories and feelings of first rain start too.
Well…. First Rain… According to some Indian writers, First Rain is the rain where you get chances to get “wet” (pun is included, intended) with your special someone … But there is no mention of what to do when one does not have someone that much special, so I thought I’ll celebrate the first rain of this season with my friends. College friends were not in Pune, so celebrated it with my office friend.
As per my amdavadi rituals for “Pehlo Varsad”(First Rain), I have to welcome the rain Gods with garma garam daalwada (will give you recipe if u guys want)- ofcourse from Gujarat Dalwada Centre, but, Pune has different ritual, it’s to have Vada-pav, but was not in mood of that… So I started the celebration with a cutting. My next ritual is to have a good rain-bath but unfortunately, the time we left office the rain was almost gone. Now you will think that then what I did do to celebrate the first rain…
Okk, so now I’ll tell you what we did today…. When we left office, the water clogging in our gully was at its peak as you can see in the photograph attached, so after having a cutting, we walked till the main road, water was there too, but we somehow managed to start our journey to my way back home. The atmosphere was chilling cold but that was not enuf to shake our mood of masti, hence we decided to go for a li’l drive in nearby area.
That drive gave real pleasant moments for eyes… all scenery was totally green n really awesome. And as if rain Gods were listening to our prayers, it started drizzling. In short, it was most awesome day today. Though I had some typical girlie fearsome moments, regarding a mouse n of course, a snake (how can I forget that!!!).
But in all these I missed my cell phone a lott, if that unavoidable incident had not happened 20 days back, then I must have clicked some really awesome pics of the nature, but abhi ke liye, enjoy with my these clicks….
Happy Monsoon people!!!!!
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